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Paranoia in my relationship
Anxiety Support / by philosophicalWalker1
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 February 3rd, 2021
...See more Im in a relationship (it's been a few months now) and lately I've been paranoid. What triggered this is that usually my bf doesn't use whatsapp that much. Yes, he used it to get to know me, so during our first month of dating he was more active, answering me all the time. Then after the first month he said that he doesnt like to text that much, he prefers talking in person. So he replies to all of my texts, but is not active every minute. He let hours pass between messages. But since last week, he started to be online more. And my paranoid mind instantly took note of this. At first I thought that, since he was having a health issue, and he was texting me more about that, maybe that was the reason for him being more active online. But I noticed that with each day he was more active, texting me more. Lately I even downloaded an app to track when he is online and when he goes offline, out of fear. I started to think, what if hes texting with another girl? And with this app I found out that lately he's always online, more than usual. For example, in the last three hours he was online every five minutes. And I kept thinking, who is he texting with? I'm very paranoid about this and I felt more anxious than usual today because of this. He said to me in he first month, that if there are problems, or if he lose interest, he will let me now immediately. And he doesnt seem the type of guy that wants to mess with me or cause me harm. He's not an impulsive person. I know that the issue here is my fear of him cheating, not his behaviour. I was like this with my ex too. I ws paranoid and suspicious of him possibly cheating, even tho he never did. I want to get past this fear of mine, when he goes online even for one hour straight I want to be able to think "oh ok he is online, it's ok, he is probably in his group chats...".
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