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mischief000
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PathStep 2 Compassion hearts7 Forum posts2 Forum upvotes4 Current upvotes4 Age GroupAdult Last activeOctober, 2022 Member sinceOctober 29, 2021
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Breaking up with someone I love
Relationship Stress / by mischief000
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 October 31st, 2021
...See more I started dating this guy almost 3 months ago and almost immediately we had an extremely strong connection. He is everything I've ever wanted from an emotional perspective for a relationship. I knew before I met him the first time that he was disabled but still able to care for himself although his activities are restricted. Because of this he cannot work, does not have a car, and his living conditions are substandard. None of this bothered me initially because I fell in love with his personality and we have an amazing time every time we see each other. Last night I told him that I did not see us together forever. It's a bit shallow on my end, but the main reason was because I am an extremely active person and he simply cannot be. As we spent more time together I started to realize that I would either have to sacrifice activities I love to do or simply do them by myself. I completely crushed him. Other major reasons included the fact that he chews tobacco- totally gross- and is extremely jealous. Every time I go out without him I know he's jealousy gets the best of him. I'm the kind of person that has as many guy friends as girlfriends and I have been fighting myself hanging less with the guy friends to keep him from being jealous. I would take him with me but because of his custody issues with his child I don't normally see him on weekends. So here's the dilemma. I'm still in love with him. But I feel that if I hold on to this relationship any longer it would make it even worse for him. I simply don't see myself being happy for a lifetime with him, primarily because of his physical limitations. I feel shallow feeling this way but I have dreams of doing things that probably won't happen in this relationship. I guess basically I'm looking for validation, guidance, or whatever. I don't know if I should permanently end a relationship with a guy who I have a strong connection with. I'm afraid if I continue that I will find myself getting frustrated with him.
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