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luminoushalcyon
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Anxiety Support / by luminoushalcyon
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 July 3rd, 2019
...See more I'm a bit nervous about posting this but I need some advice. I have a lot of trouble saying no, especially at work, so I end up doing more than my fair share a lot. I always thought it was good to be a hard worker, but now I'm just very overwhelmed and burnt out. When people ask me to do things, I'm afraid to say no because I don't want them to be angry or upset with me. At lot of times I'm the only one working while my co-workers goof off on their phones or watch Netflix. I work at a community center where people come to get help, and I'm terrified of letting people down. One of my most pressing problems right now is that I'm being guilted into helping someone too much. It's embarrassing, but I ended up letting them talk me into basically doing their homework for their summer college courses. I tried telling them no, but they kept saying things like their child was in the hospital, they had a stressful move, they just got a new job, a neighbor was threatening to sue them, they can't lose their financial aid, they're not good with computers, there's a language barrier etc. so that's why they're behind and need my help. I should be mad at them for taking advantage of me, but I'm mostly upset with myself for not being able to tell them no. I always try to give people the benefit of the doubt, and realize too late that I'm putting up with too much. If you read this far, thank you. This has been really taking a toll on me for the past few weeks, and I needed to get it off my chest. If you have any advice, it's greatly appreciated.
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