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I know im unhappy.
Relationship Stress / by littleMap1862
Last post
 December 7th, 2021
...See more Me and my boyfriend have been together for a year and a half. I really love him, and he is my best friend. Recently (about 5 months ago) he got a new job, his confidence has soared and he is really enjoying it, which is great. He has changed, a lot, though. I've tried to talk to him about it, but he gets very defensive. He seems less patient with me, and less affectionate. He still is, but it just feels like the oomf he had towards me once has kinda gone. The thing is, I know im unhappy. I feel like its because of this job, but I would never/could never ask him to leave, he's so brilliant at it. I think it's just the environment he is in now. I cant bring myself to tell him that I'm unhappy now since our relationship has changed a lot, I dont know if it is going to change or if I'm just in a lul and focusing too much on this. It would break his heart if I told him I'm unhappy and I think that it would be the end of the line, rather than something we spoke about and tried to fix. He's the love of my life, I'm just not sure he's the same person anymore and I don't want to change him. I'm sitting on my bathroom floor in tears as I write this. I dont know what to do.
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worried about my boyfriends new job
Relationship Stress / by littleMap1862
Last post
 July 7th, 2021
...See more hello everyone. In the time me and my partner have been together (1 year) he has always worked alone or souly with men, other than clients. He's a tyre fitter. He has recently gotten a new job as a salesman and I'm very worried that he will now be around women on a regular basis and in a close vicinity. I have bad relationship anxiety due to a past abusive relationship and that partner cheated on me continuously with women from his work, and even listed off every one from his work he found more attractive than me in his break up speech. I'm worried that my partner is going to be around more confident women who are aesthetically more his type, fancy everyone and leave me. I know its crazy but my anxiety will not stop about this. He starts next week and im really worried I'll worry myself sick about past events reoccurring. My partner always is saying how lovely gorgeous sexy etc I am and that he really doesn't notice other women or feel attracted to them because he's only got eyes for me and I trust he means those things but I have trouble believing someone could thing those things about me. I just needed to vent. I've lost a lot of friends recently as they aren't being good mates and feeling quite lonely and isolated and scared about the future.
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Anxiety about the past
Anxiety Support / by littleMap1862
Last post
 June 17th, 2021
...See more Hi everyone. I was looking for some advice on an odd issue. Me and my partner get on great, he always tells me how much he loves me and he treats me as such. However, I have horrible anxieties about his past and what it means for us. If someone comes up in conversation that he used to see or like, it makes me anxious and I worry if he still wants them. I feel like I worry about things no one else would think of. If we are watching TV or out for dinner I worry if he looks to long at someone (he never does) or if he finds someone more attractive than me and ultimately I worry I'm not good enough for him in the long run. I know these anxieties are probably fuelled by a previously very emotionally abusive relationship, but I wondered if anyone had tips about intrusive thoughts? I dont enjoy these thoughts and I never mention them, but it makes me feel horrible and I beat myself up over these things when I shouldn't and it isn't really my business anyways. Just looking for some help about how to manage my brain that doesn't want to co-operate with my general happiness. Thanks in advance
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My boyfriend is meeting my friend today
Anxiety Support / by littleMap1862
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 May 10th, 2021
...See more Hi everyone, this story is going to seem a bit mental probably. My boyfriend is meeting my best friend tonight. I'm really worried because I know that they are aesthetically eachothers types, but they also have so much in common, maybe even more than me and my partner have in common. I've had bad expierences in the past where my ex commented on how attractive my friends were etc and also had a different relationship where my ex and best friend slept together. The closer it gets the more paranoid that I am they are almost going to get along TOO well and my boyfriend will find me less interesting or less attractive. I know this is such an ugly insecurity but I'm making myself so anxious I almost don't want to go now Can anyone help calm my nerves or understand where I'm coming from?
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sinking again
Anxiety Support / by littleMap1862
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 April 30th, 2021
...See more hi everyone. Im quite good at knowing my 'tells' now when it comes to my depression. I know when I'm good, and I know the signs of when I'm slipping back down that hole again. I need some help because I have tried explaining to my boyfriend that I have no motivation, just want to lie in bed, im not enthusiastic about things right now etc. He is coming with suggestions on how we can work together and being very positive and enthusiastic. However, I feel that he maybe doesn't understand that, for example, i don't WANT to lie in bed all day, it's just I don't have the motivation to do anything else. How do I make him understand that I cant help these things and its not that I actually want to be doing them? Thank you
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Advice wanted
Relationship Stress / by littleMap1862
Last post
 March 31st, 2021
...See more hey guys. me and my partner have been together 9 months. We met, fell in love, and moved in together in the space of 3 weeks. Everything is really good between us, but I feel like I have some issues. Sexually, I feel I initiate the majority of the time, but I get pushed back a lot. I would say I have a pretty healthy sex drive. These issues have been around for a while now. We have spoken about it, and he feels bad because in a previous relationship he was the one getting turned down and he feels like a hypocrite. That expierenced knocked his confidence and I trust that that is why we are having this problem and not because of his attraction to me. I've never had this problem before so I am struggling with it a bit. The main thing is, is that even though I believe him it makes me feel so unattractive. I feel less confident, a bit unwanted, and its really making me overthink and be paranoid in other aspects of our relationship. We have spoken about it and he has said he will try, but its slow moving and even still I feel bad. I just want him to want me. I dont want it to feel like a chore. I'm not sure what I can do to help him, or help myself. He doesn't get himself off (I trust him about this too) and neither do I. But I feel not great about it. And the fact that he has been in my position before just makes me feel like he must have been far more attracted to someone else to keep trying atleast but not so much with me because it just doesn't seem the same. We do have sex regularly, but it just feels its on its schedule and I get knocked back. Any advice?
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Anxiety Overload
Anxiety Support / by littleMap1862
Last post
 March 15th, 2021
...See more Does anyone else feel like you are two different people? I always think my "normal" head and my "anxiety" head is two different things, like the good and bad version of myself almost. This week I've really been struggling with my anxiety and I have just been irritable for no reason. Like really irritable. I know im taking things out on my partner and that he must be kinda fed up of me by now. I'm constantly worrying about how my relationships going, if I'm missing anything, I'm worried so much about messing it up that I think that's what makes me mess it up. I just want a break from my brain at the minute.
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