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Can i not be mad?
Family & Caregivers / by lazy404
Last post
 19 hours ago
...See more I have a difficult relationship with my mom, but the most straining thing right now is that she keeps using me as her personal chauffeur. My mom kept pushing me to get my license , but when I was finally ready, I got it 3 years ago. she didn’t follow me to buy my first car, she even refused to join me on my first drive by myself going home with the car. (I was scared). After a week of practice, I took to the highway to go pick her up from work, after seeing that I was a little more comfortable with the highway, the endless requests to drive her around started. It’s like that to the point that it’s not even requests but expectations and commands. So now I’m either driving to school, work or driving her to work, driving to her errands, driving her to where she feels like going. Sometimes she makes me push my plans back just to drive her. I barely get to sleep in anymore.l because I have to wake up early, go pick her up from work then go straight to my work and after 9 hours of walking around a large building i have to go home and drive her to work. I’ve tried so many times to get her to get her license, but she failed once and just stopped trying. Now whenever I get mad at the situation, i end up feeling guilty because you know she’s my mom and she worked to take care of us as kids and also there are worse situations than me having to drive.
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Difficult mom
Family & Caregivers / by lazy404
Last post
 January 6th
...See more Before we proceed, I should state that my mom and I don’t have a great relationship with each other, as in her very presence pisses me off. So there’s a slim chance a heart to heart conversation will be a solution. But: I’m African, and it has been ingrained in my head to always respect my parents etc etc. so you can imagine how hard it is to speak my mind most of the time. Anyway, this is the current issue that brought me here: tonight I was supposed to hang out with friends, but i usually drive my mom to work at night. So I asked her to take an uber this time, but she said she didn’t have money for one. So I offered to pay, and here came this insufferable act of hers. She started going off, spazzing about how I’m making it a habit of always going out, and that I went out for New Year’s Eve so there isn’t any reason to go out again and that I don’t see her going out often. So now I’m wondering if I should just go out anyways and call uber for her when she’s ready or just let it go and try to move out soon. I should also point out I’m 22 years old but unfortunately I think I’ve been conditioned so it’s hard for me to not listen to her.
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