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lavenderLion2361
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PathStep 1 Compassion hearts26 Forum posts14 Forum upvotes17 Current upvotes17 Age GroupAdult Last activeDecember, 2023 Member sinceJanuary 18, 2022
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Dating and Adhd (Mental Age Lag)
ADHD Support / by lavenderLion2361
Last post
 November 30th, 2023
...See more Hello! I read somewhere that there can be a 30-40% lag between the mental age of someone with adhd compared to neurotypical aged matched peers. Do you think it could therefore be possible/make sence for some people that have adhd to only feel comfortable dating people who are younger than them - slightly more matched to their mental age than their chronological age? Or do you think that would be wrong??
Is it okay to not have things together?
Anxiety Support / by lavenderLion2361
Last post
 December 1st, 2022
...See more I am 22 years old and I am very much enjoying what I am studying, but my anxiety holds me back from things such as learning to drive and having a relationship. I am too scared even to get my Learners license, and I have never had a relationship or even gone as far as kissing someone I like, which makes me feel really ashamed and scared for the future, because all of my friends and people around me are driving with their full licenses and in long term, serious relationships, and I just feel like I haven't got things together at all!
Telling friends I feel!!
Anxiety Support / by lavenderLion2361
Last post
 December 1st, 2022
...See more Before me and my flatmates go our separate ways at the end of the year I really need to explain to them how much they have helped me, but I don't know how to! Is anyone able to help 🙏🙏 Have you ever had those friends where even though your interests aren't always the same and you may not always be on the same wavelength as them, something about them makes you feel like everything is going to be okay? Like they calm you down and make you feel like from being around you are growing into a better version of yourself that you feel really proud to be! My social anxiety often makes me come off a little fake and over energetic (I think it's partly nervous energy!) and I feel like I am very inspired by how calm and mature and insightful they are, and how much they look after and are so kind to their friends (and also really funny and fun to be around!) And I feel like I want to be a bi more like them! Even though I'm not always the best at being on their wavelength and stuff, I feel being around them gives me a sence that everything gonna be okay, and it feels really safe and special to me! But I have no idea how to tell them!! And I'm starting to freak out a lil because we're all about to leave, and I don't want to end out flatting experience without them understanding how it's been a really special experience for me! Any advice!?!?!? xx
Wish I could be closer to people
Anxiety Support / by lavenderLion2361
Last post
 April 2nd, 2022
...See more I see all these people who I love have these really close bonds and relationships with their other friends, which makes me so so happy to see, but it's like even though I love them more than I can explain, I can't be as close to those people as I see them being in their other relationships. And it just makes me feel really sad and kind of a bit worthless. And I am genuinely happy on the surface but it's like on a deeper level everday when I wake up, even though I appreciate life so so much, I slightly feel like I'm not happy to be alive and like I shouldn't be here, just because I feel kind of empty and numb and almost desensitised to things, and I think I'm like a really really bad person. And throughout the day I feel like I'm trying too hard to be happy around people, like I'm kind of putting on an act. I just have this really big wish that I wish I could be more important to people!!
Self Help Book Suggestions
Anxiety Support / by lavenderLion2361
Last post
 January 19th, 2022
...See more Hi everyone! I really like self help books to try and help with social anxiety because I like how you can read them in your own time and at your own pace (I love talking to a therapist but sometimes I get kinda overwhelmed and forget everything I wanted to say hahah!) So I was just wondering if anyone had some good suggestions of self helps books that they've read and enjoyed?? Thank you 🙂
Anxious around friends
Anxiety Support / by lavenderLion2361
Last post
 February 16th, 2022
...See more I have this problem where I get really nervous even around my closet friends. Sometimes I don't know what to say or do and I overthink how I'm acting around them. It makes me feel like a fake friend. I don't know why I get so nervous, because I know mt friends like me, but it's like part of me thinks that i'm not good enough and they're gonna stop liking me or something. It makes me feel really alone! I know it's not true but I can't seem to stop the nerves 😔 Does anyone else have this problem?
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