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Number of ratings88 Number of reviews33 Listens toOver 18 LanguagesEnglish, German Listener sinceJun 16, 2015 Last activein last 6 months GenderFemale PathStep 146 People helped117 Chats455 Group support chats88 Listener group chats559 Forum posts107 Forum upvotes186
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I am not an active member of this community, as I do not agree with the Terms of Service and am not willing to compromise my, and indeed the British Psychological Society's (BPS') or the Health and Care Professions Council's (HCPC's), standards of ethics.





I am leaving my account open with view to returning should the Terms of Service ever be altered in such a way that it were more in-line with my own moral and ethical views.



I really do hope that you find the help that you're looking for and deserve. I'm sorry in this instance I am unable to support you through this channel. I hope that changes soon.


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Befriending yourself
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 February 14th, 2017
...See more Friends Game! So I would like to start this post off with a little game. You can do it in your head or write it down on a piece of paper, or even share your answer in the comments if you like. Please do take part though. ✎ 1. Write down a list of your 5 best friends. These can be people from your past or present. People you've known for a long time. Whoever they are just be sure that these are the people you consider or have considered your 'best friends'. This isn't always easy, you can take your time if you would like to. It isn't a test though so no one needs to know these answers other than you. . . . . ok now that we have our 5 best friends written down. Are you on that list? If you are, congratulations! If you are not, why not? Why are you not your own best friend? Now it isn't unusual to not put yourself as your own best friend so please don't worry. Lets move onto the second part of this game. ✎ 2. Write down the traits/characteristics or qualities about the way that they treat you, that make those people your best friends. . . . . Ok so now that you have those words written down, lets consider them together. Did you say that they are accepting of you? No matter what mood you are in they still value and cherish you? Did you maybe write that they are patient with you? Maybe they still accept you when you're a bit grouchy. Is it that they love you unconditionally? Is it that they're generous and always provide support? Whatever the words that you chose are, consider them for a moment. ✎ 3. And now write those words with 'self' in-front of them. For example: 'self-love', 'self-acceptance', 'self-cherishing' , whatever it was that you chose just add the word 'self' first. These are the characteristics or traits that we should show towards ourselves. You deserve to treat yourself fairly and lovingly. Some tips to help you along Between realising how we should be to ourselves and being able to put this thought into action there can be a small gap and a bit of a challenge. For that I would like to share a few resources that I have found. ★How to be self-compassionate [http://www.7cups.com/blog/post/76/How+Self-Compassionate+Are+You%3F.html]. ★Many of us also struggle with an inner self-critic. From my understanding mindfulness [http://www.7cups.com/blog/tag/mindfulness/]can be a fantastic way to cope with both your self-critic and the resulting emotions that we can suffer from. Just to battle a few pre-conceptions, mindfulness does not only encompass breathing techniques [https://www.7cups.com/exercises/mindfulness2/] but more generally a way of being in the now [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UYfvyeZhLfk]. ★One way of battling strong negative views about yourself is to show kindness to yourself through self-care [http://www.7cups.com/blog/post/75/What+is+Self-Care+%26+Why+Should+You+Care%3F.html]. ★Some people find that when they are attempting to alter their thoughts (e.g. negative self talk), writing down the initial (unhelpful) thought and then attempting to come up with an alternative (healthy, helpful) thought can be useful. This you could do in a structured thought diary [http://www.getselfhelp.co.uk/docs/ThoughtRecordSheet.pdf] or unstructured diary format. I would love to hear about your path to befriending yourself in the comments bellow. Tell us what has helped you. What you would suggest. Tell us if you now plan on making changes to how you treat yourself and what changes you'll make. What do you think will be the first step for you to befriending yourself?
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very helpful and logical troubleshooting to find solutions. thank you.
Wow! This person is amazing! You can tell they really have been trained as a listener for this site. Extremely professional. Did a great job at asking questions, being non judgmental etc.
This listener is amazing, I felt so alone and like no one cared. Joy did care and she made sure I felt safe and understood. Even though they did not have very long to chat they made sure I was aware of timing and made sure that I felt heard and supported. Joy is A*
An incredible chat.
I felt like I found the perfect listener.
She is an amazing listener; incredibly intuitive, asked the right questions to help e figure out answers to the complexity of my issues and provided gentle responses to those issues.
The best listener you can ever have no doubt!
nice
Good listener!
joyseeker is one of the upper tier listeners I've encountered on this site. Definitely someone I feel can be relied on. Thank you very much for your time!
An incredible chat. So very kind.
Extremely helpful.
I've admired Joy from afar for a really long time; they always exuded happiness and kindness with every action they've made. Talking with them, I've realized that they're so much more than the kindness they portray; in fact, I'd go as far as to say that they embody kindness, and it's not an act for them at this point, rather just a characteristic they possess. They made me feel like I have a chance in this world, and that's a lot to say, considering that this night seemed to just be getting worse and worse. I can genuinely say that they are the reason why I've smiled tonight, and that I'm glad I took a chance with this lovely person. This person has so much intelligence, and so much insight to offer to the world, that it's a wonder why other guests don't just flock to joy. Thank you so, so much.
Great chat.
I've spoken to a few people so far and I've yet to meet anyone as professional or helpful as this person. They really did a world of wonders for me.
One of the best listeners I have talked to on this website! I really appreciate it, keep it up like that!
Amazing person to talk to. definitely leave a message or have a chat. they are really caring and always reply when they are free to talk.
you are bae
JOYSEEKER IS AWESOME SAUCE THIS PERSON SHOULD KKNOW WHO I AM BUT IF THEY DONT ITS OK :p THEY ARE SO HELPFUL AND ATTENTIVE
An amazing listener and person, both professional and personable on every level :)
Great .. Awsome .. Cool all things good we can call for this website .... Thanks for it (y)
Lovely thanku for listening to me and been supportive
Very helpful and patient and caring and great person to talk to and kind
so good at being casual and working with my needs and style to talk at my level. and turned out similar to me, even nicer.
One of a kind :) Remarkable.
My problem was complex relating to a broken heart and she was very insightful and tried her best to be understanding of my situation. I am appreciative of her time and patience as well as effort to help in any way she could.
Very helpful and caring and you good person to talk too
thank you so much
Very helpful and kind :)
Great chat, really caring, and fantastic at getting me to think about my problem in other ways.
Joyseeker was incredibly patient with me, let me express myself and then reflected back expertly. Got me to think about my thought patterns and gave me a little when I needed it, along with lots of affirmation. I left feeling much better about myself, and very supported.
It was I lovely chat. I have a lot to think about and I would say the moust patient listener I have hever met. Never just dissapeared. And was with me the hole time. Taking care of just me...
Joyseeker was a joy to talk to, they knew their stuff but didn't pressure, good job
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