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honeypie720
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Why Am I So Picky
Relationship Stress / by honeypie720
Last post
 July 13th, 2020
...See more Hello, So I am 19, and I've never been in a relationship or even had my first kiss yet. Being so single has left me to feel down and depressed sometimes, but lately I can't help but wonder if the problem is me. I always seem to fall for the wrong guys. No matter how much I try to talk to them or tell them how I feel, I am always rejected. And the very few guys who have reached out to me, I don't seem to really like them in that way, no matter how nice they may seem. I'm not the type to judge people by looks, I always go for personality. So why am I so picky about the personalities I like? Why do I seem to be attracted to guys who don't like me or aren't right for me? I can't force a connection, but I hate having to turn down good guys just because I don't feel it. I've tried dating apps a couple times, and again, have met seemingly decent guys on there, but always end up ghosting them or telling them I'm not interested. I'm honestly such a caring person, it kills me to lead them on and suddenly change my feelings because I know how much that hurts on the receiving end. Is there something wrong with me? Am I going to end up alone forever? Why does my heart have to be so closed and picky??
Hopeless Crush on Brother's Bestie
Relationship Stress / by honeypie720
Last post
 July 9th, 2020
...See more Hey everyone, As you can tell from the title of this thread, I have had a crush on my older brother's close friend for as long as I can remember. Ever since I was a kid, I would get all excited when he would come over to our house, and especially when he talked to me. Being the youngest sibling, none of my brother's friends would ever ackowledge me; except for him. This friend would always say hi to me (and call me by my name instead of just their friend's little sister), ask me how school was, and all of that. One of my favorite memories with him is when I made myself a glass of iced tea, and he asked me if I could make him a glass, and he loved it. I don't know, that was just such a highlight for me. 😂 The crush was never strong enough to the point where I could never like anyone but him. I have had other romantic interests, but for some reason, this one just won't go away. He is 5 years older than me, so obviously nothing could ever happen between us back then. But, now that I am 19, I kind of want to give it a shot. He rarely comes over nowadays; a few weeks ago was the first time I saw him in a couple of years, and that's when I realized that the feelings are still there. I could probably make him another glass of iced tea and probably feel just as enthusiastic as I did when I was a kid, LOL. But rarely seeing him also means rarely talking to him. We are friends on Facebook, and I noticed it was his birthday a few days ago. So, I sent him a message wishing him a good day, saying it was nice to see him the other day, and that it'd be good to catch up and chat more. To this day, he still hasn't even opened my message or read it, despite being active multiple times, and the message status being "delivered". I'm no stranger to rejection, but this one really sucks since I've liked him for so long. Maybe the age difference weirds him out? Or maybe he sees me as a little sister since we've known each other for so long? I could definitely see why he would turn me down, but I just hate that he couldn't even give me a chance. I know I should let him go, but I can't just turn these feelings off for him. I see something special in him, and I want to tell him how I feel, but never get the opportunity. I just feel like I'm in a fruitless situation and don't know how to get him to see me in the same way I see him, or to even talk to him. As for my brother, we aren't close at all. I could never tell him how I feel without him being weirded out, angry, or swearing at me. I hate that out of all people, I have to like HIS friend. He would never understand how I feel or try and set me up with his friend, because he just isn't compassionate or caring at all like you would imagine an older brother to be. I know that even if his friend and I started dating, my brother and my whole family would be weirded out completely, but I think he would really make me happy (since he already does). I know the rest of my family would be accepting since they already think he's a good guy, but I just have no idea how he sees me or if anything could or would ever happen, and it hurts. I know this is kind of a crazy situation, but any thoughts or opinions would be appreciated. :)
Talk To Yourself Like A Good Friend
Positivity & Gratitude / by honeypie720
Last post
 July 8th, 2020
...See more Hey everyone! When it comes to ourselves, negative thoughts sometimes seem to take over and constantly put us down, mkaing us believe that there is nothing loveable or special about us. No matter what you tell yourself, know that those negative thought aren't true! Whether you see it or not, every one of us is special in our own way in someone else's eyes. Just because a butterfly can't see its own wings, doesn't mean that it isn't beautiful and unique. The same goes to all of you! In this thread, feel free to write yourself a positive comment, piece of advice, or anything uplifiting that you would tell a good friend or someone close who felt the same way you do. Learn the positives and lift yourself up as easily as you learned the negatives. :)
Fear of Happiness
Depression Support / by honeypie720
Last post
 July 1st, 2020
...See more Hello! For the past couple of months, I have really been focusing on myself and working on personal goals to just feel better overall about life. Lately, I've been feeling really good, and I can honestly say that I feel the happiest, proudest, and confident that I've probably ever felt. But a small part of me can't help but fear for the future. I tend to doubt my happiness and wonder if being this happy means that something terrible is about to happen to me or someone close to me, that will bring me down and destroy all the progress I've made. Does anyone else feel this way? How do you ease your mind? Are my feelings correct, so should I be prepared for the worst? Thanks! :)
What's Your Favorite Self Care Activity?
Icebreakers and Games / by honeypie720
Last post
 August 26th, 2021
...See more Hey everyone! No matter what is going on in our lives, we should always find time to do the things that make us happy to be who we are. Self care isn
What's the Best Advice You've Ever Been Given?
Depression Support / by honeypie720
Last post
 June 28th, 2020
...See more Hey everyone! As we go through life, especially while battling depression, we can often feel overwhelmed, and feel the need to reach out and ask for some help with whatever we are going through, feeling, or struggling with. Everyone has different perspectives and views on things, which means everyone can offer and recieve different pieces of advice that others may have never heard of that could potentially really motivate and inspire them. So, whether you matched with a really helpful listener here on 7 Cups who said something that really stoof out to you, or you had a talk with a family member or close friend that you take with you everywhere, or you just saw a really awesome quote online, please feel free to share it here! I'll start with a quote I saw on social media: "Life changes. You lose love. You lose friends. You lose pieces of yourself that you never imagined would be gone. And then, without even realizing it, these pieces come back. New love enters. Better friends come along. And a stronger, wiser you is standing back in the mirror." ✨💖
Feeling Lonely
Relationship Stress / by honeypie720
Last post
 June 23rd, 2020
...See more Hey everyone! I always try to be an optimistic and hopeful person through life. But sometimes, like everyone, I have my doubts and feel like I'm never going to be loved. I'm 19, and I've never had a boyfriend or even a first kiss. I'm a pretty straigh-forward person, so I'm never afraid to be straight forward and tell a guy I like how I feel. While this may seem great, I am always rejected. It sometimes leads me to think that there's something wrong with me, and it's not just the wrong person. I've been told I'm picky when it comes to relationships, but that's only because I know my self-worth and what I deserve. I never like a guy based on looks, I mainly fall for the vibes and personality. Is this really a bad thing that could possibly be holding my love life back? I just wonder if I will ever recieve the same type of love that I am always giving to everybody else. It gets lonely, and while being single can have its perks to some people, I feel a bit tired of it since I've never been in a relationship or felt that kind of connection with anyone. I know they say the right one will come along eventually, but I feel like I should be more proactive than just sitting and waiting. Maybe me being an Atheist and not really believing that the universe has a set plan for each and every one of us is exactly true forces me to have doubts, so I'm not sure how to exactly feel more confident. I was just wondering how you guys deal with the lonliness and hopelessness of being single? What gives you moivation and reassurance? What are your inspirational stories or advice? Thanks, hope you're all doing well! :)
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