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hereigoagain
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Traumatic Experiences Community Daily CheckIn - Friday 16th June 2017
Trauma Support / by hereigoagain
Last post
 June 18th, 2017
...See more No check-in thread today? Well fine I'll ninja one! Sorry if this causes chaos So it's Friday again. What's your biggest achievement of this week? And how are you going to give yourself a break and reward yourself? And remember, for some of us just staying alive and keeping our head above water is achievement enough. You are enough. And if nothing has been going well, do share it with us too, we are here to support each other. I hope you all have something to be proud of and something to look forward to though, you deserve it. To add/remove your name from the daily checkin tag list, please click here [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/1TDFMP7KztoMv2a7h6pOlk6Yjd7qO7inR3_RIBR8gvyI/edit?ts=58d6c6a9&edit_requested=true] @Avaray @vriska44 @Shadeshack @BeeLeigh @Faeryschild @dancingRainbow45 @Lavendermoonlight @KLM3278 @sujaypai @sweetMelody95 @jr50 @agreeableKite4304 @PhoenixPatronus @Morfo66 @themainjane @raycascotch @KatieMoon1 @conscientiousPineapple1782 @Tamba @inventiveOrange1 @Jenna0903 @melliotm @PanamaBanana @AutumnLeigh @DeborahUK @PuppyLove13 @KristenHR @BradyChay2310 @HearingYourHeart @vriska @TreesandWine @guyb @chayil @Sharkradio @MKjart @AnnaKateMillerLCSW @Tamba @Celestialvoid @WaterLily16 @TheAsh @MKJart @Asiam1971 @philosophicalship9444 @Chayil @rumplesteeleskin @Survivetoalive @exuberantTriangle2562 @coraline23 @Lilyflower0817 @caterpillargirl
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"People helped" in listener profiles
Safety & Knowledge at 7 Cups / by hereigoagain
Last post
 April 25th, 2017
...See more Where does that number come from? Because I used to think it was the number of members a listener had 1-on-1 chats with, which would be quite misleading tbh because I've talked to many listeners that didn't help me one bit. But now I've seen a few listener profiles that had a higher number of ratings than of "people helped", how is that even possible? Is it 25+ msg chats for "people helped" and some members left (probably bad) ratings before reaching 25 messages?
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WANTED: Therapist for advanced stuff (or listener who I'd be eternally grateful to)
7 Cups Online Therapy / by hereigoagain
Last post
 April 17th, 2017
...See more I couldn't find any space where a classified ad for a therapist might be more appropriate and I guess it's unlikely that I'll find someone, but here goes: I am looking for someone to - help me work through a big bunch of long-term and/or repeated traumatic experiences of all kinds that have probably resulted in C-PTSD along with anxious attachment style - more specifically, assist me with this workbook [https://www.7cups.com/forum/TraumaticExperiencesCommunity_60/TraumaRecoveryResources_481/Lifeaftertraumaworkbook_52691/] - help me with what seems to be some kind of alexithymia, at least when it comes to negative emotions - I often don't know what I'm feeling, no matter how much I "ask myself what I'm feeling", and it has caused me lots of trouble I've had some basic CBT-based counselling and have worked through a CBT book and a bit of DBT independently, I've started doing Mindfulness exercises daily, basically I was told that I'm doing all the right things but would need more thorough therapy, but the public system here is taking ages and I can't afford a regular private therapist. I have to say that most of the forum posts and comments I've seen by therapists on here have left me very unimpressed. If you have more to offer than some random cheesy phrases and think you can help me with my issues (or just one of them), I'd really appreciate it.
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How to find out what I'm feeling? (alexithymia?)
Trauma Support / by hereigoagain
Last post
 May 7th, 2017
...See more I guess this place is where my post feels most appropriate... I used to think I had an autism spectrum disorder, because often the way I feel (or actually don't feel) is so different from the impression other people get. Now I'm finding out that I'm just not in touch with my emotions a lot (especially negative ones), because since I was very little it partly didn't make any difference because I got no reactions, partly it was actively discouraged. So now I'm being told that I'm "afraid to be in touch with my feelings", but I don't know if that's true? Well of course I don't lol, because I often don't seem to know what I'm afraid of either. I often don't "feel my feelings" if that makes any sense? I've also been told that I "don't give any emotional reaction" to things that I should have feelings about, and that this is hurtful to others I've read about dissociation now and I probably have some of that sometimes, but is that always what's going on there? I can relate to some of what I read about alexithymia. So I don't know, does anyone here have experience or resources on learning to feel/identify feelings after long-term emotional abuse/neglect?
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Personalized Growth Paths - have you tried any?
Site Updates / by hereigoagain
Last post
 April 1st, 2017
...See more Actually asking others for feedback, but I don't know where else to post this... I could really use any support I can get with various issues, so I'm wondering what those personalized path thingies are like. I haven't found the free one terribly helpful, but it's a little motivating, and the idea of working through a more specific topic like that seems neat. I'm quite far from functioning well enough to hold a job though, so I can't spend money on just the odd chance that I might get something out of it. Anyone here who's tried those paths? Can you recommend them in general or some specific ones?
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Accountability partners for getting up to a healthy weight?
Healthy Living / by hereigoagain
Last post
 March 23rd, 2017
...See more So this has been bothering me quite a bit and I don't know where else to post it. I don't think I've had an ED (except maybe some "orthorexia"), but I lost a lot of weight a few years ago for various reasons and I'm struggling to get it back. I'm no longer careful at all about eating unhealthy foods and I'm trying to get more calories, but I'm still underweight (though not severely) and I keep losing the little progress I sometimes manage to make towards the healthier weight I'd like to reach. I also feel like this is a bit of a taboo problem since most people would envy me for it :-/ Anyone else having similar issues so we can try and motivate each other? And/or any listener who'd like to support me with this?
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Open, temporary chat requests in a subforum?
Site Updates / by hereigoagain
Last post
 March 16th, 2017
...See more What does everyone think about the possibility of temporary classifieds, for when a member is looking for a specific type of listener for a more urgent chat? Not sure if I'm getting across what I mean, but right now is a good example: I'm feeling upset right now about something that would require a listener to have rather specific knowledge/experience. A general request wouldn't make any sense for this, as none of the categories I can choose covers my issue. A post in the Classifieds Forum would very quickly be outdated (likely not be checked frequently by listeners, either) and I wouldn't want it to stay there for eternity. I tried some more-or-less relevant chatrooms, but they were either deserted or I didn't get support. Would it be possible/interesting to have one subforum (or perhaps even a new area that available listeners would frequently check) where members can post chat requests with a description of their issue and/or what kind of listener they are looking for AND that expire (are deleted) after x amount of time or when the member wants them to?
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"Emotional Wellness Test"
Safety & Knowledge at 7 Cups / by hereigoagain
Last post
 June 21st, 2017
...See more I get to see a graph of my previous scores in 'My Progress', but no link that would have been really convenient for re-taking the test and continuing to track the development. I used to be able to access the test at the very bottom of the site, but now the link - along with several others - is gone. The only remaining way that I know to access the test is a pop-up when I'm trying to connect to a listener. That's about the time I'm LEAST likely to want to take it, because you know, I'm (hopefully) about to connect to a listener. What gives?
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