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Be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the universe no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here.
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My name is Heather (my nickname is H), and I head the 7 Cups Community Management Team (list here). Please drop by my PMs if you have any questions or safety concerns!

Fun fact: I have a bird! His name is Flip: https://imgur.com/a/7CE0WQG

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3 Words That Describe You (Using the first letter of your name)!
Icebreakers and Games / by Heather225
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 8 hours ago
...See more What are 3 words that you feel best describe you starting with the letter of your first name (or your username)? For example: H = hopeful, humble, honest Let's learn a little about each other! Your turn!
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Cupsmas Community Team Event: Reflect with Us!
Site Updates / by Heather225
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 12 hours ago
...See more Thanks to everyone who attended our Admin/Amb Team Cupmas celebration event [https://www.7cups.com/forum/projectsandevents/CommunityActivitiesEvents_1908/HappyCupsmasYearEndCelebrationwiththeCommunityTeam_342366/]! It's always an honor to spend time with you all. During the event, we answered two reflection questions that I'd like to ask all of you now: 💙 What role has 7 Cups played in your well-being this year? 💙 What's one wish you have for 7 Cups in the new year? Please share your thoughts and upvote others! - From the bottom of my heart, thank you for being a part of the 7 Cups family, and here's to another year of togetherness, hope and growth!
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Testers Needed: Try the Transformation Wheel (and earn a badge)!
Site Updates / by Heather225
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 1 day ago
...See more Last week I introduced a brand new intervention called the Transformation Wheel. [https://www.7cups.com/forum/siteupdates/General_2444/IntroducingtheTransformationWheelInvitationtoJoin_342256/] If you’ve been following along, you know it’s a powerful tool I’ve been using to tackle personal challenges and break free from negative cycles and it’s been transformative. I was feeling an 8/10 on the distress scale and after 4 weeks of exploration and investment, the issue has dropped to a manageable 2/10. But I am just one of a handful of accounts so far. To measure just how effective this tool is, I need more perspectives! With that, I’d like to invite you to take the wheel. As a tester, you’ll play a key role in helping strengthen this intervention by giving us feedback on how effective the process was for you and any ideas for improving it. And as a thank-you, you’ll be rewarded with the Wellness Warrior badge. Fill in this form to sign up HERE [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSc8R8vyQHTweyA20lEg3lCeIHuyhq1ZSLsb4nVczUtqL5-nlg/viewform], and I will reach out to support you. (At this point in early testing, both members and listeners are welcome to take part.) Thank you!
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Day 14: Gratitude for Imperfection: Perfectly Imperfect Challenge
7 Cups Online Therapy / by Heather225
Last post
 Wednesday
...See more It’s difficult not to want to strive for perfection, whether it's in our relationships, careers, or personal lives. But the truth is, that perfection is an illusion. It's totally subjective. We are all human, and that means we are inherently imperfect. We make mistakes, we have flaws, and we fall short of our own expectations sometimes. You can exhaust yourself fighting against them and let them erode your self-esteem, but ultimately that is futile and will hinder you in the long run. The best way to good well-being is acceptance, and finding peace with the things we cannot control. Here’s another way to try to adjust your perspective: imperfection is not a weakness but a sign of humanity. It's a reminder that we are all on a journey of growth and self-discovery.  I’d like to challenge you to think of things you consider “imperfections” about yourself and come up with a reason to be thankful for it. Here’s some examples of common imperfections (a couple of them are mine too!):  "I'm too sensitive." * Challenge: Sensitivity can be a gift! It allows for deep empathy, strong intuition, and a rich emotional life. * Gratitude: I'm grateful for my sensitivity because it allows me to connect with others on a deeper level. It makes me more compassionate and understanding. "I'm not good enough at [insert your skill or hobby here!]." * Challenge: Everyone starts somewhere. Focusing on improvement is more valuable than trying to be “perfect” and doing it only for that goal robs you of the process itself, overlooking what’s fun and fulfilling about the journey. * Gratitude: I'm grateful for the effort and dedication I put into this. I'm proud of the progress I've made and the joy it brings me. "I'm too forgetful." * Challenge: Forgetfulness can be a sign of a busy mind. * Gratitude: I'm grateful for my forgetfulness because it reminds me to live in the present moment and savor the details. "I'm too introverted." * Challenge: Introversion is a strength, not a weakness. It makes for deep reflection, creativity, strong observation, and self-awareness. * Gratitude: I'm grateful for my introversion because it allows me to recharge and find peace within myself. This exercise is about self-compassion, not self-deception! It's about finding the silver lining in perceived flaws, not denying their existence. It’s your turn to try! What is one imperfection you can be grateful for? What’s one good thing you see in it? Share your thoughts below! - This post is part of the 25 Days of Gratitude, Self-Care, and Personal Growth event at 7 Cups! Learn more here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/therapy/General_2432/Day125DaysofGratitudeSelfCareandPersonalGrowthfor2024_341520/]
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Happy Cupsmas & Year-End Celebration! with the Community Team! 🎉
Community Projects & Events / by Heather225
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 1 day ago
...See more This event happened - if you couldn't make it, that's okay! Come share answers to the questioned we asked >>> click here! [https://www.7cups.com/forum/siteupdates/HsHangout_1970/CupsmasCommunityTeamEventReflectwithUs_342724/] - Happy December, everyone! The Community Team would like to invite you to join us in celebrating Cupsmas and the end of the year! When: Thursday, December 19th Adult side: 12-12:30PM EST Teen side: 12:30-1PM EST (You can convert your timezone on the World Time Buddy site). [https://www.worldtimebuddy.com/] Where: Special Events (look for it on the chat list on the date) Bring your answers to these two questions: 💙 What role has 7 Cups played in your well-being this year? 💙 What's one wish you have for 7 Cups in the new year? - Will you be attending? Let us know in the replies! Can't wait to see you!
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Introducing the "Transformation Wheel" & Invitation to Join!
Site Updates / by Heather225
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 20 minutes ago
...See more (If this post is not displaying, click this document to view it.) [https://docs.google.com/document/d/1smAFuO0okUAW7sV04Phk8Hq0sPYfE85rmn4uMkp28o0/edit?tab=t.0] - Three years ago I had a falling out with someone. Unfortunately, people come and go, and not always peacefully, but this was abnormally messy. They made my life miserable online. They spread rumors, and lies, and harassed me. Even long after we stopped communicating, they would continue to try to find ways to get to me. It was obsessive and it made me paranoid about every step I took in our circles. It caused me to leave some circles and avoid others simply because I didn’t want to risk “flaring them up.” There was no resolution to this other than to keep my distance and hope they forget about me. But that is no way to live. Why do they get to determine where I spend my time and what I do and why should I have to walk on eggshells? And I’d only get more and more frustrated because there’s nothing I can do to stop them; I can only control myself and how I cope and move forward. The “attacks” have decreased over the last year, but that was a long time to sit with this unresolved turmoil, and even as I type, recalling all this, I start getting those anxiety flutters. If you were to rate the impact this has had on me on a 1-10 (1 = good, 10 = bad!!!) scale, I’d be an 8 out of 10 and that’s only after 3 years of long-term struggle. There’s so much toxicity built up in me and I’ve not figured out how to release it in a healthy way. I’ve tried many different interventions but they only ease the distress in the moment. In rolls the Transformation Wheel. It’s designed to address personal issues, challenges and/or obstacles in your life by listing a single issue and then breaking it down into smaller parts to better understand the causes of the issue. The goal is to tackle each over a period of four weeks. Imagine the main issue is the wheel and the categories are the spokes. TLDR - this helped me A LOT! You’ll see in the images below - my distress dropped from an 8 in severity to a 2. I felt free for the first time in a long time. This is how it works: What’s an issue you’re having right now? It could be something causing you great distress or a problem you’re wanting to solve. It doesn’t have to be complex. Write this in the middle of the wheel in the center circle. Once you have it, rate how you’re feeling about it on a scale of 1-10. 10 = severe distress/anxiety/big problem and 1 = reduced pain/the issue being more manageable/feeling better. Write this number in the center circle. Next, fill out the categories (I feel, I believe etc.) around the main issue to detail the related problems and feelings. You only need 1 point for each, but can add as many points as you like.  Every week, do interventions to address the main issue or the related points and then rate it again in the center of the wheel and rate all the related points in the smaller circles on the wheel perimeter. Not that there are 4 circles at the end of each category. Rate week 1 in the first circle, week 2 in the second circle etc. You will likely notice that the severity score goes down at the end of each week.  Why a wheel? Sometimes when we are working on an issue, we can feel like it is resolved, only to find that it has slid over into a new area. Sometimes this can feel like the game whac-a-mole [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Whac-A-Mole] where you think you solved the problem only to find it surfacing in a new part of your life. You might find yourself stuck in a cycle of negative thoughts and behaviors, replaying the same struggles over and over. The wheel acts as a container so that the problem, and all the different ways it impacts you, can be captured in one place. This makes the problem easier to track. The wheel is a sort of “problem catcher.” So, I gave this a go! Here’s an example of how mine looked: Issue: Overcoming cyberbullying  I Feel paranoid frustrated and vulnerable I Believe there’s things I cannot defend against because I can't control them People Impacted Are Me and mutual friends This Results In Having to be careful about what I share in public spaces I Behave By following their activity and making my paranoia worse Memories: I’ve had to defend myself several times against false accusations. Related Issues: Obsessing over things not in my control stopping me from letting go Then, of course, I had to address them. I did this using different kinds of interventions. Some things I did: talked with a listener, journaled (lots of journaling), shared with my partner, and I even did some chatting with Noni in the first stages. I also took this opportunity to get more serious about exercising (became a good distraction when I was getting too caught up in emotions). In combination, these things helped me reflect and work through my feelings. Every week after doing a bunch of interventions I’d rate each problem of where I was at with them. Some numbers dropped, others didn’t move right away, but 4 weeks saw big drops across the board, most notably in how I felt. I felt more in control. The more control I took over myself, the less impact these problems had on me. “Doing the wheel” became a much easier way to do self-care than other exercises I’ve tried in the past.  I logged my progress and was quite pleased with the outcomes. Notice below the changes over the 4 weeks. You can also see this in my wheel above (the main issue in the center drops from 8 to 6 to 4 to w) and in the 4 circles or each category that also go down. 4 weeks ago I was 8/10, and overall I’m now floating around a 2, which is a huge improvement. All in all, I feel much more hopeful about my situation and the weight is significantly lighter. I have been working with Glen who’s excited about this being a simple but powerful tool with a ton of potential. Like most new things, to truly test its effectiveness, we need as many people to try it out as possible. I am inviting everyone to take part and will happily work 1:1 with you to get the most out of it, brainstorm ideas, choose interventions, etc.! For everyone who does take part, and gives me your input, I will reward cheers and there will be special badges for being a pioneer in helping me develop this tool! Please let me know in the comments below: * What are your reactions to this idea? * Do you have any questions? * Are you going to try it? 💪 When you’re ready, click on this slidedeck for extensive instructions and the wheel template! [https://docs.google.com/presentation/d/10ZNwCgmwk3Gpn0N7W715avZE2HxSyywn1hBvMuTaelA/edit#slide=id.g31c733bb7ac_1_15] You can also download the blank template directly to start working on it HERE. [https://i.ibb.co/QmX3L59/new-wheel.png]
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Listener Classifieds (December 2024) Members, Check Out Our Listeners Accepting New Chats!
General Support / by Heather225
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 December 8th
...See more Happy December! This space is for Listeners currently accepting chats to introduce themselves to the member community! Members, if any listeners pique your interest, you can then check out their bios and see if they might be a good fit for you! Here are some things you can consider sharing (only share what's comfortable): Are you an adult, teen or ATL (Adult-Teen Listener): Gender: Languages you speak: Topics you'll support: Topics you don’t support: Lived experience: Are you open to taking on members for long-term listening support? Your availability (in EST time) and day(s) if applicable:
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Congratulations to our November Welcome Committee Team Member Milestones!
Newbie Hub / by Heather225
Last post
 November 15th
...See more Since our launch in mid-July, the Welcome Committee has been at the forefront of 7 Cups, warmly greeting new members and making them feel at home from the very beginning of their journey with us! Thanks to them, we have reached 15000+ (15k!!!!) new members! To recognize their tireless efforts, we've created milestone badges tied to these numbers [https://www.7cups.com/forum/welcome/TheWelcomeCommitteeTeam_2670/WelcomeCommitteeTeamBadgesAreHere_335069/]!  Please join me in appreciating our third round of leveled-up greeters! Our Grasshoppers for breaking 100+ welcomes are... @Positiveak @healingsoul4892 & @Calling123 In roll our Guardians for welcoming over 500 (!!!) members: @SoulfulYash @kenzolena & @fruityPond7887 And I am super delighted to announce our ambitious Gladiators who have reached 1000+ members: @KatePersephone & @innateJoy9602 🏆 Thank you so much for taking such good care of our newbie community! Can't wait to see you hit your next milestones!! 🚀
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very helpful and really kind
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She's amazing
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Extremely helpful and very kind and non judgmental thank you
Took the time to listen and was very kind and thoughtful. Thank you H for being there
H is the beary bestest ever! 🐻💜 Thank you for being you, H!
Heather really nice help me when having really hard time in group chats and good listening when having problems
Heather is the best :)
They are really supportive. They care about the community as a whole.
Heather is an absolute star of 7cups! She has inspired so many and myself and is so supportive and caring of others!! Heather is beautiful and amazing ❤️she is thoughtful and caring towards her peers and no doubt she is a wonderful leader!
She answered my question.
So giving of their time. It was nice to see them today on site. I know they have a lot of duties and obligations, they must do, but still they were able to spend some time with members. What an amazing person.
H is thoughtful and insightful, and able to solve things efficiently.
An amazing person. Cares about others feelings, not too many of those left and admits when things do not go according to plain, not too many of those left either. They are amazing and I am so grateful they are in the position of Community Director here at 7cups. So glad Glen and his team brought Heather (H) on board. We are so lucky and blessed to have them here.
Amazing person. Very kind. So helpful and thoughtful.
Sweet person. Has a calmness about them.
Amazing Person. So down to earth. A great friend. An amazing Community Director. Always there when you need them. Hard working. Has a heart of gold. Knows a lot about 7cups. Has a passion for helping others. They are a leader among leaders. A very humble, but a very wise leader. Always, makes time for others. I hope they stay at 7cups, for a long while.
Good support very individually approach
Very helpful and supportive.
wonderfully helpful
She is an understanding person.
She is pretty and fair.
Heather is AWESOME
Awesome Listener and Great Admin and just one outstanding human being !!! Thanks so much H !!
Thank you for taking the time!
very kind and understanding and patient and attentive
Actually cares about each and every person she interacts with
yeah shes great!
Very good listener! I like her very much! She's attentive and care for you. highly recommended
A warm heart... thank you ❤
Really an A+ Listener!
Nerves of steel. I bow to you
Amazing listener :) Very thoughtful and considerate. Helped me a lot in solving my problems.
best there is !
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