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Work Life, Functioning, and Anxiety
Anxiety Support / by funnySquare1982
Last post
 March 4th, 2020
...See more Hello All, I wasn't sure if I should post this here or somewhere else (like a trauma forum), but all the same I'd like to seek your insight/support--it would really be appreciated. So, growing up, my self-esteem was frequently cut down by the parent who raised me. That's another issue in itself. Being an adult, I thought I had gotten over the effects of this and have thankfully embraced my self worth for some time. However, I have noticed that my work life is being affected dramatically. I haven't been in the workforce very long (2 years since graduating college), but with every job process, from the search to actually being in the position for a time, it's always met with extreme anxiety. I'm talking crying, near breakdowns, etc. I've discovered I can't work in an office, as the environment is too stressful/triggering. I'm doing direct work with clients now, but not making enough to be independent. Now I'm trying to find additional part-time work, or possibly switch again after less than a year at my current job, and I'm again panicking, having near breakdowns with the process. My fears are associated with not being able to hold better jobs, never being financially independent, never being smart or competent enough to hold a job. I fear it won't ever get better. I know that if I continue thinking like this it will never help me. But I can't shake what I believe about myself. I have no idea how to escape from this. I press on, because I know I have to. If you guys have any idea how to handle this, or have anything else, please feel free to share. Thanks for reading <3
Very Specific Concern
Anxiety Support / by funnySquare1982
Last post
 May 28th, 2019
...See more Hi all! I'm trying to find information or just anyone else out there that may know what's going on or what this is or has the same issue. So, I've struggled with social anxiety most of my life. I've noticed that for most of my relationships, especially with work, after a time I stop talking to people about this or that, and start only communicating when I have a question or need something (sometimes making an important enough comment on something). I feel anxiety around this, and when that happens I then avoid them even more, making this habit more apparent. I hope that makes sense. I don't know if it's just anxiety, insecurity, an aversion to small talk, attachment issue, selfishness, a combination of these or something else. I feel so bad because I don't want to use people or be so self-centered. Any opinions or insight appreciated!
More Than One Major Issue?
General Support / by funnySquare1982
Last post
 January 17th, 2018
...See more Hello, I'm currently trying to seek out therapy to help with some major issues that are causing me a great deal of difficulty for me lately...The problem is, I have more than one major area of myself that needs addressing. It seems that therapists normally have specialties, and for my problems, I feel like no one therapist will be able to help me with the different ones I'm experiencing. What should I do? Should I just pick one of my issues out and go from there? I would appreciate any experience or advice you may have. Thank you.
Brokenness making me selfish?
Relationship Stress / by funnySquare1982
Last post
 February 16th, 2018
...See more I have cut off friends for as long as I can remember. When I was younger, it was because I strongly didn't like some people or that they were negative. I became unwilling to reach out more, I think because of a fear of abandonment, since there have been times I would reach out with no response. For a long time now, it's because of my anxiety (maybe also depression). It's just so hard for me to make and keep friends. Last night I realized that it's probably because I'm a bad friend. I tend to seek people only for what I need. I find it hard to truly care about them and their needs. Have I isolated myself so much that it's made me so selfish? And it's not just with friends, but with coworkers. People feel like I don't care. It isn't true, and yet it is. I feel like I'm doomed to not be with people because I'm so selfish and can't reciprocate in the way other people need. I try to seek people out to practice being unselfish. But it just feels the same. Help?
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