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excitableSun85
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Cant focus AND I HATE IT
General Support / by excitableSun85
Last post
 February 24th
...See more please help me figure out this annoying problem that i was dealing w my whole life. I cant keep track of my progress and i cant focus on most things no matter what strategy i try. I TRIED EVERYTHING. I need intense stimuli to focus, because my brain only operates under chaos. No i dont have adhd thank you.
dont know what is wrong w me and im so angry
General Support / by excitableSun85
Last post
 March 5th
...See more I hate this ive been to several doctors nobody knows whats wrong with me, i cant focus they all think its adhd but heck no!!! I cant focus on anything even If i have interest in it I sleep 12 hrs a day THIS IS SO FRUSTRATING i took a neuropsych, 3 tests and this is all they can find Im DONE from constantly failing college!! Im basically USELESS I cant DO anythinggggg I hate this stupid disorder that everyone thinks i f** have
severe inability to interact BUT not introversion or anxiety
General Support / by excitableSun85
Last post
 January 24th
...See more this was something that bothered me my whole life. i always felt fundamentally different, everyone at school/college was able to interact, make friends, laugh and join each other while i was the kid who always sat alone, i was never able to do what they did, i did have a few friends who understood me, but for 99.9% of my time, i was alone and most of the friends were just using me. Human social interaction is alien to me, i simply cannot understand it. i thought i was shy for a long time, but shyness and anxiety were simpler answers, you can talk once you get more comfortable to someone. I was shy but when i approached someone i really didn’t know what to do or say like how it naturally came to them, its like they were handed a guidebook at birth teaching them all the social skills, but i never received such a book. and please dont tell me to learn social skills, this was something people naturally picked up, so why couldn’t I? i did grow up surrounded by introvert siblings and neglectful parents, but it wasnt severe, i was still able to talk to them most of the time. please help me find out what might’ve went wrong with me. it just seems everyone is so normal while im a glitch in the game.
Similar to ADHD but idk what it is :/
ADHD Support / by excitableSun85
Last post
 January 20th
...See more please help i asked a question a year ago and asked many people and doctors. I can't focus on or finish any task if it's not urgent or exciting. I don't know how people could make movies, games, etc. over the course of years. I can only do something in one day if it has severe consequences by an authority figure or if it's easy and excites me and i rarely get excited because i need specific conditions. I can't be consistent. I could never focus on math or any boring/technical subject no matter how hard I tried, I passed the entirety of middle-high school studying on the last day before deadlines. I tried many study techniques but I can't push through the brain fog, Im NOT looking for study advice. People told me I'm bipolar, ADHD, or have anxiety, many doctors have told me/diagnosed me with ADHD. IM TIRED of this so ****ing tired. I do not have ADHD i do not have any of those and Im absolutely not a procrastinator. ADHD is very unrelatable because everyone with it is forgetful and loses/misplaces things and cant focus if people are talking to them. I'm cursed because It's so hard to focus/persist on things that interest me. I need intensity to do anything. amusement parks are the only place i feel 'normal'. I need the possible science or the reasons behind this please help.
Can't do anything in my life and i dont know WHY
General Support / by excitableSun85
Last post
 January 18th
...See more please help i asked a question a year ago and asked many people and doctors. I can't focus on or finish any task if it's not urgent or exciting. I don't know how people could make movies, games, etc. over the course of years. I can only do something in one day if it has severe consequences by an authority figure or if it's easy and excites me and i rarely get excited. I can't be consistent. I could never focus on math no matter how hard I tried, I passed the entirety of middle-high school studying on the last day before deadlines. I tried many study techniques and timers and I can't push through the brain fog, Im NOT looking for study advice. People told me I'm bipolar, ADHD, or have anxiety, many doctors have told me/diagnosed me with ADHD. IM TIRED of this so ****ing tired. I do not have ADHD i do not have any of those and Im absolutely not a procrastinator. I'm cursed because I need adrenaline to do anything. I need the possible science or the reasons behind this please help.
How do i find my own forum posts?
General Support / by excitableSun85
Last post
 August 30th, 2023
...See more Hi, How do I find the forum posts i created in the past? I need them for reference Thanks.
I can't fit the textbook ADHD definition despite getting a Dx and it hurts
General Support / by excitableSun85
Last post
 August 19th, 2023
...See more Hi,, So I'm struggling with an issue I had my entire life. I lack the ability to finish assignments earlier than the last day before they're due. When I start early I either can't focus or I'm too slow that I work twice as much as my peers but finish half as much, because my brain doesn't activate UNLESS I have adrenaline from deadline urgency. Similarly, It's nearly impossible to start, persist, and finish things I'm interested in, because I need the task to be exciting to give me adrenaline and I can finish it. This also affects my entire life, my hobbies, relationships, sleep, etc.. After a year of asking around, most told me it sounds like Bipolar or ADHD. I told my psych then I got diagnosed w/ ADHD, the ritalin worked and then it stopped. But I regret getting diagnosed anyway, I felt misunderstood. Most ADHD ppl online, fit the stereotype or textbook definition, They're easily distracted, forgetful, or lose things. I'm not like this. My brain is just selective, when under pressure or excitement, it works well, otherwise, It doesn't. ADHD symptoms when described, sound like they always happen, for me, they only happen when my conditions aren't met. I heard that ADHD ppl focus well when interested, but, most articles/ppl talk about the focus issues and a few talk about the interest or urgency side. And my issue with adrenaline isn't talked about enough that it feels part of ADHD. I feel like everyone wants to be a stereotype because it's 'trendy'. Why doesn't anyone talk about having non-stereotypical ADHD outside of primarily inattentive or hyperactive? and maybe someone who doesn't forget much, forces their focus, and is an 'adrenaline junkie' bc adrenaline makes them clear-headed? I don't fit the stereotype or medical definition and I feel invalid and this is why I don't have ADHD and I still don't know why I can't achieve any goals in life 😔 (not seeking validation, just want to know if people like me exist, they aren't represented bc the stereotype is more 'quirky')
I feel invalid
ADHD Support / by excitableSun85
Last post
 April 18th, 2023
...See more Idk what to say. im so tired ive been looking for answers for half a year now and i found nothing, my friend found clarity in her adhd when she isnt diagnosed yet and doesn’t seem to have many issues, my other diagnosed asd and adhd friends think i have both, But i think im just a high sensation seeker who cant function in life without constant chaos and nobody knows if i’m this or adhd. i got an adhd diagnosis but i dont believe it, im so jealous that people aren’t so hard on themselves, i dont feel valid bc my issues aren’t severe enough and im prolly denying myself or holding myself to high standards even tho i have at least 8 symptoms in the dsm. im a fraud.😞 I dont need validation bc i know for a fact that i focus too well and i can supress my hyperactivity, Doc idk what ur taking about.
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