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emotionalBranch5559
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Relationship Stress / by emotionalBranch5559
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 December 5th
...See more Hello,  My wife and I have been together 10 years and have had sexual/intimacy issues for 8-9 of those. She love bombed me and initiated sex often that first little bit. Soon after we got married she wanted to kiss and have sex less and less but still cuddles and holds my hand often. We’re best friends. Each year we either don’t have sex at all or only have it a few times. She tells me in an ideal world I’d have a friends with benefits on the side but I don’t want that. I feel bad wanting more and having needs but I also can’t walk on egg shells hoping I’m not kissing her too much or making her feel too bad about sex.  I’ve been telling her all this for years now and nothing has change permanently, always up and down each year.  Advice?
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Relationship Stress / by emotionalBranch5559
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 February 9th
...See more Hello, My wife and I have been together 6 years. We see eye to eye on all the big major stressors in relationships except intimacy. The first year was great, she even initiated most of it. Now we’re married and each year we have sex 0-4 times a year. We’ve both voice our points of view but so far she hasn’t said 100% what she’s comfortable with. I see sex as an emotional connection and she couldn’t care less about sex and said even with exes she did out of obligation. She’s in therapy and feels guilty about not wanting it but over the years goes between telling me she’ll try harder to telling me in a perfect world we’d just cuddle and hold hands and never have sex again. I’m unsure what to do, the rest of our relationship and points of view are spot on. I’m thankful she’s still cuddly but whenever I kiss her too much, too long or too often she stops me and 90% of the time when I try to initiate sex I get rejected too. Advice??
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Trouble in paradise
LGBTQ+ / MOGII Support / by emotionalBranch5559
Last post
 February 12th
...See more Hello, Im trans and my partners first non cis partner. We’ve been married 6 years and see eye to eye on a lot, except intimacy. This wasn’t always like this, the first year was amazing and she even initiated it more than me. Since we’ve gotten married we have less and less sex, even minimal kissing. For me sex isn’t just the quick act of, it’s a deeper emotional connection that I’m missing. I’ve talked to her about it and she’s currently in therapy. Some years we don’t have sex at all, other years we have 1-4 times but you can tell when they’re not really wanting to. I think the last few years she has had sex just because she knows I need it and she feels guilty. She recently has said she doesn’t know if she’ll ever want sex again and is working to figure out what her wants and boundaries are. She is always more than happy to cuddle and hold hands but once I kiss her too long, too much or too often then she’ll stop me. And of course whenever I try to make moves or hint at sex she’ll 90% of the time stop me. I go in waves of taking it personal like but she says she just never has had a sex drive and only has had sex in past relationships out of obligation. I’m not sure what to do if she says she is ace sex repulsed. It’s such a gut punch even when we’re out at about (no plausible way of it meaning or leading to sex) and she steps away from me or says no thank you when I’m kissing her. She’s my best friend and we match in every other way religion, money, family views etc. Advice?
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