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...See more Hi everyone, I am not sure how to tell my situation but I will give it my best shot. I'm not very good at explaining! So, I wanted to talk about my ex, I'll just call her E from now on. We were in an on-off relationship but always managed to sort things out to get back together. We weren't officially together but we liked each other. While on one of those breaks, I hooked up with another girl. I'll call her R. She was actually kind of an ex to me too, well, yet again, not officially together too. I regret it so much. I know that I was to blame too, I hold my hands up to that but it turns out she's manipulative and cunning. So, yes, all this time, she's been like that, I just realised it too late. So yes, basically, of course, E was very upset and hurt by it. I didn't really know how to explain myself and so I ghosted her. Now, two years on, we still haven't spoken. She thinks I'm actually dating R but I haven't even spoken to R since that hook-up. R is still actually harassing her to this day. So, I really still have strong feelings for E and I don't want to move on. Actually, she is my first and only love. I truly do believe we were meant for each other... however... she now has a boyfriend. I've recently found out they've been dating since June of this year. They have broken up once already though. Actually, I got in touch with two of her friends and luckily enough, they do support me and think they won't last anyway. Of course, there are her friends that actually like him too. I personally really don't like him and don't think they're a good match either. He is like, so cocky and smug about it. But I am considering or well, trying to get better myself to talk to her on her birthday which is coming up in three weeks' time but I am not sure how to cope. I know that I have to be able to handle it because she will talk about her boyfriend. I know I have to be happy myself to get anywhere with her. You should be happy by yourself, right? Hm, it's just, that it's affected my sleep too. I can't stop thinking about her so I'm not sure what to do. I am definitely not gonna give up though. So. Ah, sorry, if anyone has questions, I would gladly answer them. Thank you.

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