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I like reading, digital art, things arranged neatly, and well organized notes.
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Focusing on breathing? Not so relaxing.
Anxiety Support / by duckyreads
Last post
 July 8th, 2017
...See more A lot of anxiety resources tell you to focus on your breathing and center yourself with it. There are mindfulness and meditation walk-throughs that tell you similar things, too: in, out, slow breathing, etc. My issue is that one of the things that makes me anxious is thinking about breathing. Some of my forms of anxiety attacks leave me feeling like I can't breathe, even though I'm breathing in plenty (sometimes hyperventilating). I feel like I'm not getting enough air, like my lungs won't inflate sufficiently, like I'm drowning in nothing. This usually results in me getting sore sides from attempting repeatedly to breathe beyond my maximum lung capacity. Does this mean that most of the anxiety audio self-help is going to be problematic for me? Are there any mindfulness, meditation, even self-hypnosis types of tracks to reduce anxiety that don't include a strong focus on breath? I'm annoyed that so many of them seem counterproductive. I get that this is my issue, and not everyone's, but I can't be the only one with this problem.
Smarter this you think: growth vs fixed mindsets
Positivity & Gratitude / by duckyreads
Last post
 April 29th, 2016
...See more (Hoping this is an appropriate place to put this thread; I'm new at this.) My therapist was discussing two different mindsets: growth mindset, and fixed mindset. The idea was that someone with a growth mindset would actually be more successful in school, jobs, life, etc. and be happier in general/more willing to take chances and to (ultimately) get farther.
 In very basic terms, things break down like this: 
 • growth mindset: every step progresses your learning experiences • fixed mindset: every step is either success or failure Someone with a fixed mindset might be more afraid to take on new challenges, because they're afraid that they will fail, and people will realize that they are incompetent. For someone with a fixed mindset, life is simply a series of tests to prove or disprove your inherent abilities. Someone with a growth mindset, however, realizes that failure is simply a learning experience, and the mistakes in the past don't preclude you from being excellent in the future. Being willing to make mistakes means being able to make progress. (As a children's cartoon has recently reminded me, "Sucking at something is the first step to being really good at it.") Not everything in life is a test, but you can learn from anything in life. People who embrace this do better; forgive yourself if you have made errors in the past, understand that you will make them in the future, and realize that as a human being, you are a work in progress. Here's to learning.
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