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dlc87
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Infidelity recovery
Relationship Stress / by dlc87
Last post
 May 15th
...See more Hey all. I'm looking for support and ideas to help me in this ongoing and painful struggle. First off, I am seeing a therapist and couples counseling is not an option, she is therapist averse and keeps rejecting it. The short version is she was having a pretty strong emotional affair at work. She's still in love with him. She has advanced in this job a lot and loves it and doesn't want to leave. They talked and agreed to be friends and don't want anything further. She has even agreed not to talk to him after work. But they still hang out in the same group even when they go get drinks and such. So heres where i need help. We've been trying to work it out, but it's been a struggle to rebuild trust. I'm not there. She hates to keep talking about it. Since he's still very much in her life, what can I do but ask time to time how it's going or what boundaries are being respected. She's not proactive on any of this. She feels like talking it out once is fine to move on. I think she's a bit emotionally disabled. Without getting too into it, what else can you do to rebuild trust? I don't know what other actions I can ask her to take besides me asking about things and wanting to hover when she's on her phone? I feel like I'm doing all I can but am hurting and dwelling and haven't been getting the trust back and type of intimacy I need from that.
seeking medication
Depression Support / by dlc87
Last post
 January 17th
...See more So anyone have thoughts on seeking medication for depression and smoking cessation? I am a drinker but mostly I am worried about A. the therapist I started seeing cant subscribe and said I should talk to my php, which I don't have. I have concerns getting meds from someone who isn't a mental health specialist. B. I started smoking again (after I got my current health plan) and dont want to worry about being penalized for smoking which will just be a blip in my life and want to quit again after not smoking for so long, just temporarily/poorly dealing with extreme stress. All thoughts welcome.
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