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djhmbtr
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PathStep 5 Compassion hearts29 Forum posts40 Forum upvotes27 Current upvotes27 Age GroupAdult Last activeDecember, 2024 Member sinceNovember 15, 2021
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I’m too much
Anxiety Support / by djhmbtr
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more I don’t know how to stop feeling so much. It’s like anything anyone says I can take to heart in an instant. I’m really not good with criticism. It’s like I have to be perfect or I’m so mad at myself. My boyfriend tried to express that he wanted more time with me and feels as though I’m not as invested in him as I used to be. And although I mostly understood what he was trying to say and get I’ve had a lot happening lately, it’s like I snap and can’t be in the wrong. I don’t know how to fix this. Then I get so upset at myself and have a mental breakdown and feel crazy like I don’t even know what I’m saying anymore or how I got in that situation. I know I’m in the wrong but I can’t stop feeling like I need to be perfect or I’ll be mad at myself and think everyone else thinks the worst of me too because I do. It’s a constant battle. And I spend so much time trying to defend myself and arguing it that it hurts everyone else and then I realize what I’ve done in the moment from being so emotional I can’t control how I act. But then I get emotional after realizing what’s happened. I just wish I could stop being so hard on myself. Everything is a big thing to me and every little mistake is a big mistake in my head and I severely beat myself up for it. It’s the sole reason behind why I would self harm starting in middle school and still struggle on and off til this day. I don’t want to be this way anymore but I don’t know how to fix something that has been an issue for so long. I just wish I could turn my emotions off like I feel and think too much . Why am I like this??
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Not in a good headspace
Depression Support / by djhmbtr
Last post
 September 9th, 2022
...See more Lately I’ve been feeling depressed. I have an appointment to get set back up on my antidepressants, but it’s a month away. I feel so hopeless and worthless. I don’t like the person that I see everyday, but my depression makes it hard for me to make the changes that I need to make. I just graduated college, I have an okay job, and I’m starting to work things out with my ex again. I should be happy, but I feel more lost than ever. I feel like I’m not doing enough with my life. I can’t seem to get back into my hobbies. I feel like I just work and come home. I hate when my chest feels this heavy. I get irritated so easily, and just don’t know what to do with myself. I find myself sleeping more than normal and eating more which in turn makes me feel worse about my body image. I’m just feeling hopeless.
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Feeling broken
Relationship Stress / by djhmbtr
Last post
 March 17th, 2022
...See more I recently found out that my ex cheated on me right before he called it off. He said it was a one night stand and that he regrets it, but I’m almost positive he is still sleeping with this other girl. I can’t help but feeling worthless and like I’m never going to be enough for anyone. I’m constantly feeling let down and all I can do is blame myself. I feel stupid and like no one is ever going to fully love me. What’s so wrong with me that someone I thought loves me for almost a year and a half would cheat on me? I’m heart broken and feeling like the worst and disgusted in my own skin. Idk how to get past this or to get over him. I wish I could hate him, but I don’t. This hurts so bad and I hate myself.
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He cheated but I still love him
Relationship Stress / by djhmbtr
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 February 28th, 2022
...See more My ex broke up with me about two months ago. At the time he lead it on to be that he was going through a lot and felt anxious around me, like he couldn’t be with me because he had a lot going on and I made him feel bad about his decisions. Well, recently I found out he broke up with me the morning after he realized he got drunk and cheated on me with his coworker. I’m so hurt by this. He let me believe I was the reason we broke up because he didn’t have the courage to tell me any of this. He keeps apologizing and saying how he messed up. I’m hurting more than I’ve ever hurt before and I’m not sure what to do. There’s a part of me that’s always going to love him and I just want him. I’d never felt a connection like that before. But he broke it. He broke me. I shouldn’t still love him.
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2 months past, but still not over it
Relationship Stress / by djhmbtr
Last post
 February 11th, 2022
...See more I’m still hurting so bad over my recent breakup. He broke up with me because he felt I was taking my emotions out on him too much when I thought I was just expressing how I felt. He did things that would upset me, and I expressed that to him and maybe I didn’t do it the best way but I was upset in the moment. He said he felt like he couldn’t make his own decisions because he always got anxious and had to think whether it would upset me or not. That’s when he told me we shouldn’t see each other anymore. He posts songs on his social media now that have lyrics I keep reading over and over because it feels like he’s referring to our relationship and it hurts. I feel like it’s all my fault. I miss my best friend.
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Help for my friend
Relationship Stress / by djhmbtr
Last post
 January 31st, 2022
...See more Hi, I have a friend who is going through a tough time right now with her anxiety. It gets the best of her and actually causes her not to be able to do certain things like going shopping inside stores sometimes and she can’t pinpoint why. It causes her to overthink and have panic attacks. She currently doesn’t have her insurance back for another month or so to get actual help. Does anyone have any tips for handling this? I’d love to be able to help her as she’s helped me with so much.
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