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diplomaticBirch7532
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I'm happy to be traveling solo away from my country .
Anxiety Support / by diplomaticBirch7532
Last post
 3 days ago
...See more I am traveling in London England and I really have enjoyed my time here this far. I am originally from Toronto, I feel happy knowing that people in London aren't saying I'm ugly, or im a -6/10 like in Toronto. Now the people in Toronto are better than me because they've had multiple relationships and im 27 and im still a virgin and I messed up because I decided to focus on getting my bachelors and masters in Computer Science rather than focusing on dating
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I am glad that I recovered and I am alive with you all today
Self-Esteem / by diplomaticBirch7532
Last post
 September 11th
...See more I am someone who is pursing my masters degree  which I will soon be graduating from and working full time making up to 200k. I was very ungrateful in my life because I was desperate for a relationship. However 3 weeks ago, I started to have symptoms of pneumonia  and I had shortness of breath, my doctor told me to go to the Emergency and I remember the doctor telling me if I had come in earlier, my illness could have been a lot worse. This was because I had fluids in my lungs which was causing shortness of breath. I remember not being able to move, and just coughing non stop. I couldn't also stop crying because I was scared for the worse. However I was able to get treated and it really opened my eyes about how hard I was on myself and how ungrateful I was in my life. I didn't care about finding a romantic relationship anymore, I realize that I am still young and have my whole life ahead of me. I was just happy that I was alive and I could see my friends and family. I want to live my life this way, be grateful and not put too much stress on myself and just be happy. My voice is still hoarse however once everything is back to normal, I am looking forward to speaking with my therapist.
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I miss the days when I was a confident dude and was happy with my life.
Self-Esteem / by diplomaticBirch7532
Last post
 August 9th
...See more I remember a couple of years ago I was a happy confident guy in my life and I looked forward to every new day. I never really cared about anything and tried to be a very stress free person. I always tried to make time for my family and tried to always meet new people. In 2016 I attended to university and I thought that I had a new start, I felt confident and happy and then I realized that everyone there was so much further ahead of me, they've had more experiences than I have ever had. I ended up graduating with my bachelors and then got my masters but in terms of my social life, I was very far behind compared to my peers and I felt like that I didn't care because I didn't see in it me but I was happy. However in the past year or so I have lost a lot of my confident because I had gotten rejected by this girl that I liked alot. I had tried to dating again which lead to people criticizing me in horrible ways and tried to step outside my comfort zone and it ruined my confidence and self esteem. When I was a confident person I never really cared about dating or relationship but I started caring since I am now getting older (for reference I'm 27M).  I've been trying to rebuild that confidence again through therapy and reading books about building confidence and learning to love myself. However I miss those days alot and it wasn't too long ago. I feel nostalgic thinking about how much and confident and happy I was. 
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I hate being single and lonely and don't deserve love
Depression Support / by diplomaticBirch7532
Last post
 August 3rd
...See more Hello people of this amazing community, I am 27 years old and I am still single. I studied computer science and got my bachelors and masters in it. I never focused on relationships, I've never dated in my life nor have even kissed a girl in my life. My goal was to first get my degrees and then a job. I did end up getting a job making 6 figures however given how much the world has changed especially with social media it has become difficult for me to date. I have had over 200+ rejections and I've had women tell me that I am very ugly and even my parents said I was ugly. Some people say that because I've never had a relationship they see it as a red flag and they wouldn't choose to date me because they believe something is wrong with me and that they don't want to teach me how to be in a relationship. Since people told me I was ugly I've done a lot change myself, for example I started going to the gym and have lost 80 lbs in one year, I started dressing a lot better, I grew out my beard and I use to wear glasses and people said I looked ugly in them so I got laser eye surgery however even after all that I still wasn't datable. I get therapy and my therapist said to do things that I love so I decided to do solo travel however I got judged by my friends for traveling alone and I remembered people at the airport giving me dirty looks. So I can't travel solo anymore and I was planning to do a backpacking trip all over Europe. I also went out to night club once just to socialize a few months back and people said I was too old for that and was having a mid life crisis.  I do have friends however given that we are all so busy with work and most of them are now married it's hard to find time to spend with them and I get very lonely and depressed. Sometimes I think do I deserve to be happy in my life anymore? I have a lot of regret for prioritizing school over my relationship life and I feel like it will haunt me forever.  I love you all and please take of each other and love yourself!
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I hate waking up and realizing that I am single
Relationship Stress / by diplomaticBirch7532
Last post
 July 23rd
...See more I hate waking up realizing that 27 years old im still single and I have never dated. I feel like such a failure for never ever dating and i have messed up badly in my life. All I did was study and got my bachelors and masters however where I live education is useless so I failed at it. I hate this feeling so much, Ive tried everything to be good enough for a relationship but its never enough and I hate myself for it.
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I want you to know that you are better than me.
Depression Support / by diplomaticBirch7532
Last post
 July 7th
...See more Hello Lovely people, I want you all to know that you are better than me. If you've had a relationship then yes you are definitely 1000% better than me. Im almost 30 years old and ive never had a relationship in my life and have been told that i am very very ugly. I would show u my face here but then im sure i would hirt ur eyes. I was stupid and spent all my time focusing on school getting my bachelors and masters in computer science and not dating like everyone else. I have alot of regrets. i hope that you guys find the love and happiness that you deserve because I know i wont. Just remember you are better than me , in every single way and i can never be as good as u guys. take care everyone!!
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2023 was a bad year for me
Relationship Stress / by diplomaticBirch7532
Last post
 December 10th, 2023
...See more As 2023 ends, its another year in the book for me. This year I turned 26 and I tried for once to go out there and talk to women and potentially find my first girlfriend. I was super confident in myself and I found nothing but disappointment, rejection after rejection and being told that im too ugly and that no one would be stupid enough to fall in love with me. I reflected on that and realized that these people are wrong for thinking that but then again I thought maybe there right, theyve had relationships, theyve had partners, they've had sex things at my age ive never done. I think it's time for me to move on this phase of my life. I think for me its best never think about relationships, just continue to work 50 hours a week and continue to do my masters part time on the side. Maybe this whole "love" arc isnt for me. I hope you all enjoy your 2024 because im sure it will be alot better than mine :) 
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