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Dealing with mean people
Student Support / by dew101
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 2 days ago
...See more Hi, I am a PhD student, my supervisors are mean, and they only care about publications. This is the end of my fifth year, and I was aiming to reach the defense, but they introduced more challenging work. They misled me sometimes, creating a lot of stress and pressure. When I say I do not know, they say it is my PhD and I should find a way. The problem is that they do not provide resources either literature or other contacts for help. How can I deal with such people? Also, I am an international student. What do you suggest, these days, I can not sleep well. Thanks
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Anger
Newbie Hub / by dew101
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 November 5th, 2024
...See more I am a PhD and have a lot of anger and disappointment because of my supervisors. The topic was suggested by them and it was not well planned. The PhD program was for three years, then I had to find a job. After 5 years, I thought that I was done after I wrote my thesisdraft. However, my supervisors always pull me backward and make me feel I will never graduate. The relationship has not been good since the beginning, but I could not change it because I traveled to another country, which is a long story. I am an active and hard-working person. Now, I feel helpless to myself, and I can not deal with these people. They keep lying and changing their words. I think of quitting, but my family wants me to return with the PhD. I have a lot of pressure and I do not want to lose my self esteem. Many suggest going and talking with them, but I am not motivated to see them. I sent them an email for clarification. It was like this since the beginning, they suggested I do things related to the research without being aware of the challenges. The research is multidisciplinary, and I feel alone in this research, with a lot of uncertainty, no supportive literature, and no research community. There are some issues with the topic and I talked to them before. When they can not help, they say it is my PhD and I should find a solution.  My goal is to have the defense and move forward in my life. Any advice is welcome! Thanks
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