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determinedCoconut4836
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3 years aft breakup still yearning for him
Relationship Stress / by determinedCoconut4836
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 September 2nd
...See more Hi fellow 7 cups members, I had a relationship of 5 month back in 2021 which I feel so strongly about back then and it still make me yearn for the exact same relationship. It was the first relationship I was able to say “I love you” and mean it. He was my second boyfriend and everything felt so “right”. However, as we were closing in towards the end of the year, and the festivities period, he broke up with me out of the blue. I feel that there were not enough attempt that we made to actually know each other enough. Like we had some minor disagreements which we didn’t have time to resolve. And the break up come like a smack in my face. I feel that we quit too soon. My therapist back then told me that sometimes the right person might not have come in at the right time. Since the break-up, I am trying to focus on my self-growth and finding stability in my life. I am struggling with doing that as I feel that the rejection back then is still hurting me and make me feel inadequate. Sometimes, it sounded like I am blaming everything else and not taking responsibility. But really.. when I am envisioning my future/ dream wedding. What we had back then just pop up and he is in my vision. I know probably the solution is to move on and meet new people. But it’s still hard cos I often compare men with my ex and most of them don’t measure up. I don’t want to contact my ex again because I fear that I still won’t be good enough. And that I will be rejected again. If anyone has similar experiences or any advice or techniques that has been helpful please share. Or if you are stuck on the same boat as me, please comment so I know I am not alone. Thanks!
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I binge watch YouTube day till night and sometimes 3 days straight
Addiction Support / by determinedCoconut4836
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 September 2nd, 2021
...See more I struggle with YouTube addiction. It helps me procrastinate from monsters (the things that I need to get done but really dread doing). I could get hyped up and all motivated to start doing work but then I find doing the action very hard. Whenever I face difficulties with the task, I want to go back into bed and grab my phone to watch YouTube.
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