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deehitcher
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Relationship Stress / by deehitcher
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 February 8th, 2019
...See more I have a friend of 20 years who I feel in competition with especially since I got married and she got to know my husband. She did something which I found strange when my husband's mother died. She asked me for his addres in America. I was expecting her to send a mass card. But she sent him a hand written personal card. Her mother had died the month before. Now I get that it's a nice gesture. But she'd only met my husband a few times before this happened. I think she wrote something about wanting to help etc. Which made me feel pretty uncomfortable. I consider that my job to say those things and be the person there for him. I felt threatened. Anyway when we got back home that year and she visited us at least 5 or 6 times at our house. Each time my husband would hang out with us. And many of these instances left me feeling outside, like a third wheel. It came to a head last year when I met her and a couple other friends on a night out. The first thing out of her mouth was asking for my husband and looking behind her, expecting him to be there. Bear in mind I hadn't seen her in about 3 months. I explained that he wasn't coming, that I thought it was girls night. To which she visibly sighed and looked dejected. I couldn't help it. I snapped and said If you really wanna talk to him, I can go home and get him for you. She looked shocked and hurt. My other friends were kinda surprised too. But I'd been feeling backed into this corner for long time.
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