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cyanKite7632
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Recently left the lifestyle...
Relationship Stress / by cyanKite7632
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 October 30th, 2015
...See more Hey everyone! this is my first time posting in the section, but find it great that this section exists on here. I recently left the lifestyle because my Dom/husband was using it as an excuse to be excessively abusive. He was the one who introduced me to it, and for the most part I enjoyed it. But the past few years got really bad because he let his other sub (who I was supposed to be alpha over) take over the household and basically tell him how to be the Dom. As a result I was expected to do everything. Work full-time, keep the house spotless, AND be on a strict schedule where every minute of every day was micromanaged. The last 3 years he and I never even slept in the same room and the only time he showed me any kindness was when she wasn't around. I'm just curious what sort of experiences the rest of you have had with the lifestyle. I love being submissive, but I'm terrified of getting into another bad situation like what I just left. I actually have been diagnosed with severe depression, severe anxiety, and mild PTSD because of what he did. I've also been on medication for it as well. Is this normal for the lifestyle? What is considered "normal" and what is considered extreme? How does a sub stand up for herself in such a situation where she has been made an omega? I'm just trying to figure all this out so I don't end up in the same type of situation again.
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