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creativeCat8614
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pressured with mum's expectations
Family & Caregivers / by creativeCat8614
Last post
 October 14th, 2021
...See more hello i need some advice. i recently decided to pick myself up to try to do things for myself after feeling helpless. i finally want to start doing things for myself but there's a lot of stuff going on in my family that makes my mum upset (i was her main emotional support from my childhood until adulthood). i can't help but to ignore my plans just to help my mum because she needs it and no one else can really help her (since i'm already there and home all the time i feel like i can't say no). i already am going to therapy to help focus on my personal and career goals, but i don't know, i feel like i just need to push myself to do things because i seem to be the problem. i feel so stuck and like my feelings of anxiety that my mum will be upset that i won't help her are crippling me and preventing me from doing what i want in life. i don't know how to live for myself i think, because i always put others first. how can i break free from this attachment and focus on my own goals?
i have no friends
Depression Support / by creativeCat8614
Last post
 November 28th, 2021
...See more i wasn't someone to have much friends out of school, and i lessened contact with my college friends because i'm not sure if they can accept me for who i am. i mostly find comfort in seeking out online friendships for now, since due to restrictions i can't go out to meet up with people. what can i do? i always feel like i have not much support and no one to really talk to. i don't share with my family my personal problems either.
never feeling enough for my parents
Family & Caregivers / by creativeCat8614
Last post
 September 1st, 2021
...See more for context: im 22 and still live with my parents (am asian so i cant move out). i also currently am seeing a counsellor. as the eldest child, i have always grown up to be the one to take care of my parents' emotional needs (especially my mum's) before my own. i'm sick and tired of a lot of things, because i feel like whatever i do to please my mum, she will always be upset about something in life. and i really bend my way backwards/drop everything to help her. but as for my emotional needs, she does not have the emotional maturity to understand what i'm going through and belittles my problems. it's so funny how when she tells me i need to 'have confidence in myself' when she's the one determining who i am all along, moulding me into what she wants for an ideal child. i've been harbouring these anxious and depressed feelings for too long, i want to break away from them to find myself, yet i feel immensely guilty for trying to discover who i am while my family's problems are poured onto me. i don't think i can ever be myself around them, it's suffocating and i'm so tired.
fear of horror, gore, death
Anxiety Support / by creativeCat8614
Last post
 August 26th, 2021
...See more i fear consuming any horror and scary content, but it irks me a lot since sometimes i like to read into mystery stories but it scares me if there's a death or gore mention. i have searched that exposure therapy(?) is a thing to combat this fear, and i'm trying baby steps, i think... it's tough for me because i am a highly sensitive person, and well watching l movies or shows relating to these topics always triggers my anxiety... really feels paralysing for days after.
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