Skip to main content Skip to bottom nav
courteousAvocado7960
703 M Little Steps
PathStep 8 Compassion hearts98 Forum posts8 Forum upvotes6 Current upvotes6 Age GroupAdult Last activeApril, 2022 Member sinceMarch 1, 2022
Recent forum posts
10yr relationship, 2 1/2yrs married
Relationship Stress / by courteousAvocado7960
Last post
 March 10th, 2022
...See more I met my husband 12 1/2 years ago. After 10 years together, we got married. Our relationship has been turbulent since the beginning. He cheated within the first year with his ex girlfriend and I couldn’t let that go for so long. After that incidence there was talking to other girls and sleeping with someone while we were in a break. in addition, he has no boundaries between his family and our relationship. He is so enmeshed with his family that I was never a priority, at least it felt that way. He also preferred to play video games all day instead of spending quality time. We lived in multiple apartments together, I got kicked out of the first one because I was so hurt emotionally and became suicidal. I seeked therapy. We reconciled, next apartment we had a huge fight because his family was not on board with both families having thanksgiving together. The families never met and I thought it would be nice to bring the families together. That resulted in him leaving our apt for two months. We reconciled. He spent 7 years of our relationship taking care of his grandmother, gave up school and work. There was no support from his family. His mother did not want to lose her job and risk her retirement so he sacrificed himself. He didn’t get paid for a few years until I found a program that would help pay him. It was minimum wage but it was something. As a result, I took on a huge portion of finances in the home. fast forward and we are now married living in an apt across the street from his family. His grandmother passed away two years ago and my husband has been unemployed ever since. He would not help me with house chores, drank, did drugs, played video games, and it got to a point that a became frustrated with his behavior. This behavior has always been present. it became difficult when I left my job and was seeking employment. This is when I really needed his support and he was unavailable to me. This led to resentment, mistreatment, fighting. It got to the point that last week he said this marriage is over. i am completely devastated because I thought we could try therapy to resolve our issues. The love is there why not try everything possible?
Search more from @courteousAvocado7960
Considering Therapy?
Talk to an expert therapist
Badges & Awards
13 total badges
Hand Shake Linked Chief Chat First Post Reaching out Helping out First Compassion Helpful heart Bundled Group Chimer Teammate Group Friend Forum Friend
Report an issue