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I really dread the thought living with my Mother-in-law
Family & Caregivers / by courageousThinker2777
Last post
 June 20th, 2023
...See more This might sound rude or like a typical daughter-in-law drama. But just a month ago, I was someone who was excited by the prospect of living with family. I wanted to give back to my parents and my husband's parents the comforts of home which they gave us when we were little. I wanted mu home to be a place they could see coming and chilling in their old age. However, a few days back, my MIL came to stay with us and it was the total opposite of what I imagined. She was interfering in everything, telling me how to make my home better, finding ways to tell me how she would better managed things, not giving me a moment to sit alone and work (I am a PhD student), being too judgemental over every move I made, not giving me ans husband space, and sadly referring to my home and car as my husband's only. For the first time I felt I had no ownership over my own life which I have built on my own. When she left, I felt relieved that I can breath now. My husband in those two weeks helped me as much as he could to avoid tense situations as he saw most of the things I felt too. But the moment my MIL has left, it seems like he just wants to forget the bad parts and focus on how his mother had a good time. And that's fine. But my experience was real too and I am not ready to forget because if it's repeated again, I don't think I will be able to live in the same house again. It's a huge blow to your self-esteem. I don't know what to do when she comes back next year.
Hard to move past fights that happen with parents
Family & Caregivers / by courageousThinker2777
Last post
 June 10th, 2023
...See more Did you ever fight with a parent in adulthood? How do you all get past it? How do you recover from the guilt of having hurt your parents? What is parents don't realize that they hurt you too?
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