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cinnamonteal
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PathStep 66 Compassion hearts25 Forum posts22 Forum upvotes31 Current upvotes31 Age GroupAdult Last activeJanuary, 2021 Member sinceNovember 8, 2019
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I like to spend my time playing games and developing games. Video games hold multiple aspects of the things I enjoy doing all in one place: writing, art, coding, music, etc.
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How to handle people who rely on you to listen to them, but no one listens to you?
Relationship Stress / by cinnamonteal
Last post
 June 13th, 2020
...See more Usually I'm fine with listening. And it seems the friends I have rely on the comfort of having someone who will hear them out unconditionally. However, since we are friends, there are times when I would like to speak. When I do, I always get interrupted. Sometimes I'm asked repetitively to repeat myself because they weren't really paying attention. Other times I've been ignored. The best scenario is when I'm allowed to speak what I want to say and then, without caring to comment on what I said, they go on to whatever subject is more important. The only time they really care to hear me talk was in response to what they said or an opinion/advice they asked for. I had a breakdown two years ago in May in which I dropped the few online "friends" I had. It was a point where I realized I knew a lot about them and they knew nothing about me. It felt like I was being used and that I was no different than a brick wall. Sure enough, none of them really cared that I was gone. At least, they didn't express it. One came back a year or so later because she missed talking about her stories with me and me editing them for her... The trouble is that this same problem seeps into my more important relationships too. Admittedly it's not near as bad, but I'm very sensitive to it. Recently it's hit a point where I stop sharing things unless I'm requested to and if I'm interrupted when I'm saying something, I stop talking completley and never bring the subject up again. Does anyone have any advice on how I can approach this differently? Or does anyone else do this? I feel like a child throwing a tantrum but honestly I'm just hurt and feel ignored. It hurts even more when, despite me doing this, no one seems to notice or care otherwise. I'm just adding to my own hurt this way and not solving anything. Thanks for reading and best wishes to all of you! ♥
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