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cannonbeach
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How to break up during quarantine?
Relationship Stress / by cannonbeach
Last post
 May 17th, 2020
...See more Hi, y'all. I am struggling with this and didn't know who to ask. I've been with my girlfriend for ~7 months, but the past 2 of those months have been spent quarantined apart. Soon, I'm going to be traveling to spend the summer with immunocompromised family (this travel is necessary, please don't ask), so that will mean another several months apart. By the time we have a chance of seeing one another in person again, we will have spend more time apart during the relationship than we have together. Neither of us signed up for a long-distance relationship, which is essentially what we're doing here. Long-distance only works when both people are on the same page, and we really are not--she is great, but we have opposite communication needs (she wants to talk often and gets reassurance from staying connected if she's upset; I withdraw and don't like talking much with anyone when I'm stressed, sad, etc.) I also know she'd like to try to see each other in person as restrictions start to lift, but she hasn't been able to stay socially distanced and I can't take the risk for my family. To be clear, I don't think that anything she wants is unreasonable at all, but I know that I'm not in a place to offer it. My question is--how does one break up during a global pandemic? I know it'll have to be digital, which is bad enough, but it doesn't even feel fair to do when the world is already so awful. How can I do it in the lead hurtful way? Should I just wait?
How did you know you were Ace or Aro?
LGBTQ+ / MOGII Support / by cannonbeach
Last post
 February 29th, 2020
...See more Hey, y'all! I'm Wright (not my real name, but I prefer pseudonyms on here). I'm a woman who's used the label "bisexual" for the past several years, but I think I'm probably asexual. My crushes and flirtations have been people of several genders in the past and I'm currently dating a woman, so bi/queer still feels mostly right. Anyway, I'm fairly certain that I'm asexual by now, but lately I've been questioning my romantic attraction, too. While I've had crushes, romance and dating make me deeply uncomfortable; I like my current girlfriend very much, but we've been seeing each other for 6 months and "like" is about as much as I've felt. I'm especially curious in hearing from those of you who are aromantic-- how did you know you were aromantic? If you're asexual, how did you know you were asexual? (As for me, I realized when talking to a friend about what sexual attraction feels like... as it turns out, "yeah, I guess they're attractive, I wouldn't mind that much if they wanted to do something, I guess" ISN'T attraction.)
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