My profile contains A LOT of information and links  that I will try to update as frequently as possible.   Feel free to always check back to see if I've added information and resources that  might be of use to you or someone in your life.   

Let me first say how proud I am of you taking this brave step to reach out and talk with someone.  You are valid.  You matter.   You are safe talking with me.  

My commitment to you is to not just actively listen, but to be nonjudgmental, patient, professional, kind and compassionate.  

You will also see that there are some things that I do not feel comfortable discussing.   This is not because I don't care - it may be that this particular topic is triggering for me personally or is something that may be unfamiliar or I do not understand well enough to support.

About me: I am a bi-racial (Native American - Choctaw/Chickasaw & Caucasian) adoptee, a tribal member of Choctaw Nation, born female and identify as 2 Spirit, with no preferred pronouns.  Like many people in the LGBTQIA2S community, I have been disowned by family and some friends after changing my name and coming out.  I have experience with ADHD, domestic violence, military sexual trauma, PTSD (and C-PTSD), anxiety, depression, suicide attempt survival, adoption trauma, divorce, Indigenous community issues/MMIWP (Missing Murdered Indigenous Women/People and many other life experiences.

I also recommend the following easy to read books:  Primal Wound (about adoptees) and Atomic Habits (about breaking toxic habits and  rebuilding yourself with positive affirmations)  I receive no compensation and am not endorsing any particular individual or publisher or other entity - these are just books that I have  read or am currently reading and find to be very helpful for me PERSONALLY.  I will update my list as I find new books.

I accept members who are Veterans, active duty and reserve personnel, current or former law enforcement, security personnel, firefighters, first responders and corrections officers.

⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️Please leave me a star rating and a written review regarding our chat! It is my hope that you have felt heard and understood during our time together.⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ Yakoke - Thank you!

 I understand that sometimes personalities sometimes just don't quite "click". If you feel that at anytime during our chat you would like to find another listener, please tell me and I will be happy to try to locate an available listener for you or you're welcome to search here:  https://www.7cups.com/BrowseListeners/ 

My concern is for you to feel comfortable as I know that opening up can be difficult. If at any time you are feeling overwhelmed or anxious during our chat, please let me know and we can chat about something less stressful for a bit until you are feeling comfortable again. The time we have together chatting is for YOU.  We can always schedule a time to chat and pick up where we left off at our previous conversation. 


If you send me a message and I do not answer right away, I will respond as soon as possible.  You are also welcome to use our browser to connect with another listener.  There, you are able to enter keywords and search for listeners according to topics that relate to you.


Boundaries:
**Unfortunately I do not give advice. Advice is really easy to give, but it can sometimes be wrong or even harmful. I don't have a full understanding of your life or world. Any advice I'd give you would be limited and potentially wrong. You are the expert on you. The best thing I can do for you is to help you figure out the path that makes the most sense to you.

**Asking for personal information. There are some things that I am able to tell you in general terms, but persisting for personal information is uncomfortable for me.  I'm willing to share some similar experiences with you, but my focus is on supporting and listening to you and helping you find the path and ideas for becoming the best YOU! 

**I do not accept or particpate in chats with sexual content . This includes fantasies, fetishes, etc.  This is NON-NEGOTIABLE.

**Active Suicidal Thoughts:
If you are serious about committing suicide, I’m really glad you came on here for help today. I understand you’re experiencing a lot of pain right now and really feel like you can’t go on. The thing is, I know that I’m not going to be able to give you the help you need and deserve right now. I know of some hotlines and helplines I can give you where there are professionals who can give you better help than I can. I will list them below.  If this is an emergency, please call 911 or the emergency number for your country, as 7 cups is unable to directly connect you with emergency personnel. Once you are no longer in danger or crisis, please come back and we can talk. 

If you feel that  your situation is not serious, you're not in immediate danger and not having an emergency, please feel free to message me. 

RESOURCES: 

Missing Murdered Indigenous Women, Men, People, Two Spirit (MMIWMP2S)

Oklahoma:  https://www.facebook.com/NotInvisibleMMIWChahta

If you are an Indigenous/Tribal Member in Oklahoma, please feel free to message me for more resources for domestic violence, legal services/tribal services, etc.

If you are an Indigenous person/Tribal Member for another tribe in the United States and need assistance, please message me and I will help get you to the right place.  




National Suicide Prevention Hotline -  http://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/ or you can call 800-273-8255. They DO have a chat option. 

For deaf and hard of hearing - 800-799-4889   ***The chat option is located in the top right hand corner of the site should you choose to use the chat option. 

If you are in crisis you can also connect with the Crisis Text Line by texting HOME to 741741, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.  


Hotlines, Helpline and Useful Information:

imalive.org - an online crisis chat service, for anyone anywhere in the world.
suicidestop.com - helps you find online chat, emergency numbers and crisis hotlines for many different countries in the world.
befrienders.org - helps you find helplines by country
suicide.org - List of suicide helplines-

Veterans or Family and Friends of Veterans including National Guard and Reserve who are in crisis, can call the Veterans Crisis Line at 800-273-8255 and Press 1 or use the online chat at  https://www.veteranscrisisline.net/  - Dial 911 if there is an emergency. If you are not in crisis or in danger, please message me for confidential chat. 
You can also send a text message to 838255 to receive confidential crisis support 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, 365 days a year.
Support for deaf and hard of hearing individuals is available at 800-799-4889

Domestic Abuse Resources:
Note: 
Computer use can be monitored and is impossible to completely clear. If you are afraid your internet usage might be monitored, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800−799−7233 or TTY 800−787−3224. Users of web browser Microsoft Edge will be redirected to Google when clicking the “X” or “Escape” button.
https://www.thehotline.org/ and click CHAT NOW

National Child Abuse Hotline https://www.childhelp.org/hotline/  for more information or call 800-422-4453


Teen Dating Violence:  For more information on teen dating violence, refer to this fact sheet http://www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/pdf/teen-dating-violence-factsheet-a.pdf

Resources using 2-1-1:  211 is a Nationwide service that assists with many different things.  They provide resources based on zip codes & state that assist with things such as housing, utility assistance, food, information after disasters such as hurricanes and flooding and more.  You can just dial 211 from any cell phone and be connected or you can visit http://www.211.org/