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brunettebabe676
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PathStep 432 Compassion hearts3,679 Forum posts217 Forum upvotes217 Current upvotes217 Age GroupAdult Last activeSeptember, 2024 Member sinceJune 25, 2014
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 i enjoy bowling, loom knitting, and going for walks.


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Child Care Worker and stimuli
Autism Support / by brunettebabe676
Last post
June 25th, 2020
...See more I recently got a position after looking for over a year. Two weeks ago I started work and I have prior experience working with small groups of children as a paraprofessional during the school year one semester or helping out with a summer school program. The new position I was hired for requires that I watch over 49 kids along with 4 other staff. I find it very hard to do my job while most of the children are screaming and causing chaos. How do I best deal with the noisy environment without feeling like I'm going to start stimming. I often feel like I am going to start flailing my arms or rocking but I know this isn't appropiate for a work environment. Currently, I bring a fidget cube to work so that I'm somewhat able to stay on task. I also zone out when the fidget cube begins to not calm me at the end of my shift.
Looking for a listener knowledgeable of ageplay and bdsm
General Support / by brunettebabe676
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October 23rd, 2019
...See more Hi, I'm looking for someone to talk to me regularly regarding these topics. I currently talk to a couple people but it isn't consistent. also intersecting with these is loneliness, and depression/anxiety
Does your disability ever keep you from getting a job in your desired field?
Disability Support / by brunettebabe676
Last post
November 27th, 2017
...See more When I went to college, I did so with the belief that I would be able to work with the disability community after I graduated. Now that I have graduated, I find that all the entry level positions for the jobs here require driving. Due to the brain surgery I went through, I have issues with my peripheral vision and am unable to drive. I do not want to get a job that does not relate to this goal in some way. I have been working really hard trying to find a job but it is very frustrating. About a week ago my mother asked if I didn't get one yet because I didn't want to work. It was a major hit to my self esteem.
Survivor to Caregiver and Caregiver to Survivor
Disability Support / by brunettebabe676
Last post
November 8th, 2017
...See more Survivor says to caregiver: I appreciate you and your support I need fewer distractions in order to focus No radio and less talking while driving Please dont interrupt me when Im focused on one thing; multitasking is difficult Ask me what distracts me Use direct straightforward language; figurative language is challenging for me to understand; make sure I understand who your pronouns refer to Do not over or underestimate what I am able to do Please take me seriously! Help me recognize when I need help AND listen to me when I say I need help (Doctors, therapists, counselors, mediators, etc) Im at higher risk for mental and emotional issues, please be aware of the signs that I might need help: Secluding and isolating myself Speaking faster, using more expletives than usual Aggression Anything that seems unusual for me might be a sign; check in with me Respond by listening to me, being non-judgmental, giving me your attention, being genuine, not pushing me to talk if Im not ready Dont compare me to others; I am a unique individual and my experiences are unique; help me reach my potential Remember that I dont always mean what I say; I dont mean to offend you Sometimes I just need to let my feelings out Watch for signs that Im overstimulated Rocking, covering my eyes, signs that Im tired, like yawning etc My emotional reactions may not be the same as yours My behavior/body language does not always indicate my feelings Caregiver says to Survivor: Focus on today Focus on the positives TBI/ABI affects the whole family I have questions because I want to understand Remember Im human and I make mistakes, too. This experience is new to me too, please be patient with me. Reminding you to use your filter or other cues is one way I try to help you I understand youre overwhelmed. I am overwhelmed too. I need to take care of myself so I can support you Other possible categories: Survivor to survivor You are fabulous! You have made it this far! You will get through this You can accomplish so much. You are empowered. Your injury is not an end-all. Use the strategies you have already: in new situations to continue improving Keep using those strategies that work for you Writing things down to help remember them and to help organize your thoughts Meditation Use calendars and reminders on your smartphone Set up reminders in your email Talk to your caregiver about things youre planning to do Use them as a resource to help you You are not alone. You dont have to do this alone. Keep your eye on the prize. Take it one step at a time or minute by minute. BREATHE! Take it slow Every day is different. Some are better, some are worse. Others may not understand what youre going through and thats okay Try to educate others if you want to No two brain injuries are alike Ask lots of questions! Sometimes you will have to ask the same question over and over again to different people to get an answer. Be persistent and persevere! Caregiver to caregiver (what I wish someone told me) Patience is key It will get better Take time for yourself Go out with friends Take a hot bath Listen to music or read a book You are not alone; take advantage of whatever support is available including support groups! Accept help when its offered Dont be afraid to ask for help Remember to have fun Its okay to isolate yourself when you need to When communication breaks down: Talk slowly Walk away and regroup when you need to Seek out a new perspective on the problem Everyone gets frustrated in this situation; you are not the first one to get upset Getting upset is normal! Find an outlet to channel your emotions Yoga, exercise, running Reading, listening to music Sing
What do I do?
Anxiety Support / by brunettebabe676
Last post
July 25th, 2017
...See more My father likes to bring up apocolypse and how humans will be replicated. I tried telling him it was upsetting and asked him to stop. he walked off on me. what do i do?
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