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PathStep 2 Compassion hearts29 Forum posts10 Forum upvotes16 Current upvotes16 Age GroupAdult Last activeNovember, 2022 Member sinceJuly 15, 2022
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How to tell loved ones you struggle with low/fluctuating empathy?
Personality Disorders Support / by bluecoine
Last post
 November 28th, 2022
...See more So, I do a lot of masking pretty much 24/7, even around family members who are supposed to be the closest people to you in life according to most people. I feel uncomfortable being a sort of therapist friend for some people, and my sister in particular trusts me a lot to confide in me about a lot of personal stuff which I try my best to be supportive and attentive to, but it's hard when due to trauma and being forced to be an emotional support object for my mother growing up, I immediately feel resent and frustration at being expected to listen to people's emotional troubles and accommodate to them. Even with the DBT I've had in therapy, I think my brain is just wired to feel this way? It's not that I hate my sister or anyone else in the long run when I have to do these things, but it's easy to have that black and white thinking in the moment, where I curse them in my head and call them weak or a waste of time. I know setting boundaries is the best solution to this but I'm so used to being that calm person who can listen to and care about you to most people that I'm afraid of seeming "selfish" or manipulative by saying it tires me out and I'm not always equipped for it. What exactly should I say? Whenever I have to bring something up I always have to know the words and follow a script so I feel confident in getting my point across, so simple examples of how to go about it would help. Thanks for even reading this :']
sobering up atm
Alcohol & Drug Addiction Support / by bluecoine
Last post
 August 14th, 2022
...See more hey uhh, i never use this site and tried to a while ago but i forgot about it so here i am, having drank a bunch for the past 5 hours and trying to sober up at 3 in the morning lol. this is just a nothing post, essentially. i just cant stop the fast heartrate im having right now, i took my seroquel like 10 mins ago so im hoping itll be enough to knock me out despite my heartbeat but so far no dice. its so uncomfortable and no matter what position im in i feel it, pounding away throughout every area of my body. my head, my back, my chest, even my arms and legs. thats not normal, i know, but ive had heart problems for a qhile now and no real way to get it checked atm so the best i can do is just live with it. im trying to cancel my mind out right now of any spiralling thoughts bc i had those just a while ago and it made me feel shitty. any tips to not do that??? i cant even meditate bc like i said, my heartbeat is too loud to cancel out, ugh
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