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About Me
Hey there I am Bear! I am so glad you have stumbled across my profile! 

I enjoy watching netflix, walking my dog, reading and meditating in my spare time. Self-Care is highly important to me to ensure a balance within my life and I highly recommend some form of self-care to everyone to include in their day - even if it is something as simple as making a cup of tea and taking a moment of reflection. heart

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An Insight To My Journey
Safety & Knowledge at 7 Cups / by bear228
Last post
 November 25th, 2019
...See more Hey everyone, so I have a difficult post to share with you all. Through this post I hope to explain the changes in my situation and to raise awareness and to educate others if they find themselves in the initial stages of what happened to me so they can feel secure to get support quickly. How did I discover 7 cups? Well I was looking for support for myself at the time, it must have been around December 2016 January 2017 and I happened to come across 7 cups early in the morning and I believe I managed to get through as a guest. Accessing a service so open for support was a surprise to me and actually connecting with a real person rather than a professional was an incredible experience. After some time I decided you know actually this is pretty awesome I can get support myself and give support back so I signed up as a Listener in February 2017. For some months I hardly used the platform but then around September ish 2017 I decided to hop on and see how things were going. Someone happened to message me inviting me to look into being a verified listener and this sounded important so I gave it a go. I took part in the verifier chat one night and felt like it had not gone too well and I found some peer support from the person who became my mentor. As I explored the site more I discovered you could become these amazing roles such as a group moderator and thats what I signed up to be because I had seen there was some trouble in the rooms. What happened? It was about the time when I became a group moderator, which at the time felt an extremely important role, I discovered there were two sides to the site. I had become a group moderator because at that time the safety of the site was not as highly focused on as it is now and there were people being extremely inappropriate within the chatrooms so I wanted to help out. As things unravelled and I gained more roles it was harder to step backwards as I feared being in trouble for having these roles and not saying anything previously. Also, I thought to myself, well Ive seen almost everything happening on the adult side what is the point anyway. How did I get ATL? It made sense that if I couldnt say anything for fear of being banned or something similar to at least try to interact with those of my age group so I applied for ATL. The rest just came naturally as I am a person who in general interacts better with those older than myself than my age and I also look older than I am so nothing was really suspected. Why did I not confide in anyone before? Truthfully, I am human, I make mistakes and I was afraid of being in trouble. There was a point where I might have said something to someone close to me at the time but I couldnt bring myself to do so. Who knows maybe things would have turned out similar at an even earlier stage of my journey! What changed? Admittedly I had offsite contact with someone who had taken a break from the site and we were communicating via hangouts to keep in contact yet to remain anonymous. Let me reiterate this is a rule breach and I completely understand why now and therefore hope others will learn from my mistakes and see why there are rules in place. This was a person who I had become close friends with and they had confided in me many times previously so I felt it was time to return the trust. However they informed admin which made things turn a little stressful for me as it was around an inconvenient time. Reflecting on it yes this person carried out what was most appropriate however it initially hurt me. Which is why I also want to warn people that we can never truly know people - even those who we think we trust- so do beware what you share and with whom. This goes for everyone it is so important to remember listeners are not professionals we are volunteers but we still cannot know who someone truly is on the other side of a computer. How did admin react? I reached out to a leader who I was told had been informed with the information and mentioned to them that I had been informed they knew of something of a sensitive nature and that due to my emotions towards this person from a past situation I might prefer to discuss it with someone else. However, to my surprise they were calm and reassuring about it giving me the space to talk if I wanted to without their judgement and reassured me if I was going to share what they thought it was then I was not in any trouble. They put aside any judgement and past encounters and focused on this one situation which is reassuring to the point that admin will support people in moving forward in a positive manner. We discussed things for a while and decided what would be the best way to continue forward on my path in correct alignment with the community guidelines. I explained that my username is something I wouldnt really like to change because my nickname was Bear before I came to 7 cups. So we explored other options until we came to a conclusive option which made the most sense and helped me feel most comfortable. Id make a post to raise awareness and during that time remain on the adults side to have the chance to tell the people closest to me and so not to cause any confusion by allowing the community an explanation. My Advice to anyone stuck in a similar situation * Email community@7cups.com with two social media handles and your correct date of birth and they will transfer you * Speak to a member of admin they can help you get unstuck * Try to speak out as early as possible even if you are a little stuck things can be solved quickly and easily * As tempting as it is to let it slip its mainly about teen safety and that is the most important thing of the site * If you are under 15 - and I wish I knew this when I signed up- there are many roles that you can get involved in as a member and support that way so even if you are not quite old enough to be a listener you are still able to support through a member account and even cooler you can get support for yourself as well * Keep smiling thank you for what you do! What now? To enable me to realign with the community guidelines I will transition to the teens side of the site. Now that I have had the opportunity for a fresh start, I will also be stepping down from some roles as my time around the site will be minimalized because I have exams coming up this year. However the roles that I opt to continue forwards with will remain as they are but with the teen equivalent. This experience will be a part of my journey and I appreciate the people I have met skills I have learnt and projects I have been involved in. Additionally, I highly respect those I have had the honour of supporting in any form and want to emphasise that I do take confidentiality highly and I apologize if you feel betrayed in any way and hope this post may have answered any questions. Moving forwards I would be happy to attempt to answer anyones questions, would like to say a short farewell to the adult team for a while, Ill see you on the other side when I age up properly. Finally, I would appreciate everyones support in a positive transition and while I appreciate this post may have arisen some emotions for some people I would still personally appreciate being provided the same respect and maturity from everyone moving forwards on my journey. Any feedback questions or comments may be left in this thread and if anyone feels they need any support there are areas and procedures to seek that such as peer support.
Self-Harm Recovery Weekly Check In: Saturday October 5th, 2019
Self-Harm Recovery / by bear228
Last post
 October 12th, 2019
...See more Hey amazing community! What are the highs and lows of the day? What is something youre currently working on to grow within yourself? Do you have some self-care planned for today? Being a work in progress is perfectly okay!! No one is perfect or doing everything right and having an opportunity to learn and grow is amazing. You are great for being here and taking the step to recovery and that is a huge achievement! *Taglist* @1Disawsum @23Lotus @24Help1 @Accentus @AdamantlyFree @addierus @admaiorasemper @akagmai97 @Akor1 @allnaturalBerry @amandaa6360 @Ambitiousthinker7178 @anabellamia1189 @anasierra @AndyDove1018 @AndyKade1018 @Antisocial5864 @Aphrodite11 @ArriaAna @arrowsgoforward @asheroo92 @AThingCalledPax @AugustaGeorgia @AuroraBorealis12 @Autismaunt14 @awesumturtlesz @Ayeeitsnotme @babybatman @Babycakex @badoinkitydoop @BandBeed100201 @bandnerd1002 @BandNerd100201 @bear228 @beniba08 @BipolarGrrl @Birdie998 @BisexualVirgo2023 @black1995 @Blackk1tten @BlamingParadox @Blcrss28 @blissedNblessed @Bloom97 @Boi @breezy @bribri20 @Brokentopieces356 @bubblzdancr @Bugggy @bugggy @BunnieLuv @butterflyPessimist @CaringBrit @CaringWater @Carrot20 @casscub @cassie03 @Catlover456 @caylaig6295 @Centremid @Charly @Charmingbeauty55 @Chels2002 @chillingwave01 @CinematicEnd @ClassicAnonymous17 @cocoafp191 @compassionaterainbow1479 @CoNfIdEnCe1 @ConsiderateSea95 @CoolCuke @Dachs @Daenerys03 @Daisy @Dany @delicateWindow53 @diamonddepree @DiscreetBeach2458 @discreetowl14 @discreetSkies9236 @Discretegrapes8490 @dispost @Drummermattrocks @DyingPetals @dynamicHemlock1736 @easyMap6620 @ElephantTiger1 @ElizabethEon @elle1508 @Ellewoods24 @emily0303 @energeticApricot2459 @epitium @Erato @EvilRegalsReadToo @exuberantRaspberries1213 @fairmindedRaspberries1389 @FallenStar2 @farahadell @FeathersOfJay @FindingPeaceWithin1 @FloweringBunny @fluffystuff @FranklyMaple @franky2OO0 @fullm00n @funfettifrosting @Funfettifrostingi @funnybanana4728 @Godsbae @goldenSummer1903 @GoneLikeAnAngel @Greg40 @HannahO11 @HelpfulAid @heyitsalli @HeyItsMish @HiddenShadows @hockey8628 @Hope2come @humorousBeing8966 @HunHansGirl @IfKpopWasPunk @Imaginativa2930 @imsorryitry @Independenttangerine @IndigoRoses @InkyOwl @InspiringLee @intellectualHuman6814 @Itinerarium @ItsReganingRain @Iwannaliveanddream @Jamie14 @Jashboi226 @Jennaray536 @Jenny34 @JinglesJudy @JohnCephas @juddskittycat @justkeepswimming7301 @JustThatAlien @KaidinJ @KayaBearz @kgyt0918 @Krispykitty12 @laicrose @Lasagna1 @Leanna @Lilbabygirl @LinearWaves @listenermegs @Littleblu @live2die1 @liztheloser123 @LooneyArtimus @LostInTheWorldT @Love4all525 @LoveableLesbian @LoveYaGod @LycheeBoba @Madaraismyspiritanimal @Maddheda @Mads @MandaGPanda @marala11 @mariaquiiroga @Marissa1031 @mayaaaaaaa @Maypanic11 @minitigriss @MinMIn922 @Miraculousiris31 @Misfitzombie012 @MissGoodby99 @modestCat9806 @Moosewithducks @MysteryAnn @mytwistedsoul @naturalWillow84 @NevaehRose @neverendingwaves @Nola1818 @noselfesteemloser101 @notanange @NotQuiteBlue @novareckenstein153 @otto123 @Outoftear @panwithnoplan @pastellexoxo @paytonfaye2003 @Peachkitten5883 @Penguin5921 @peoplej1997 @pinkThinker6194 @plushOasis77 @politeHouse5612 @Popa @porter2927 @pumpkinpi @purpleButterfly24 @purplesnail @QueerChristianTeen @Quietcat2549 @quietman4875 @QuirkyAnne @RabbitTangerine @rainysierra27 @RALC20589 @raspberryMoon5394 @rationalComputer3503 @RAWR3 @ReallyNotOkay @rebecca947 @Redhawk6547 @Reesespeauntbuttercup @rexpeter99 @rlpsgf @Ropes24 @rosenova1513 @Roseutopia @rosewater10 @Sadgirlforever @SadUnicorn5270 @sailorelix @SaintClrStudent @samgroves02 @Saskianite @selfconfidenceTangerine1778 @Sewmachine @sewmachine @shymelody @Sierra56 @Silentguitarist @sillyavocado @SimpleMe12 @SisterRaven @Skafa1214 @Skyla @Skyy0 @slytherinstarling123 @Snowangels48 @Softhearted975 @softlysolitude @soniatel @SpaceyCasey @stellaluna04 @StrangeClarity @strawberrmilk @Survivor108 @TeresaGreninja91 @Thegirlwithabrokensmile @TherealJake @Tommy38 @Totallovatic @TransWolf @Truth22 @turquoisePine1459 @twentyonepilotsclique @Twitch98 @Twotonnetable @Veerlexm @vikingwolf802 @VividDreamer @WhiteWolfIdiot @willowgreen22 @Winterisnotmyseason @WonderfulHart1330 @Xirin @XwonderlandgirlX @Yovela @Zammn >Click here to be added or removed from the taglist< [https://goo.gl/forms/pTmjmSsML0G784Ku1]
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Very kind listener
Empathic, kind and it was nice to be able to chat about things.
He my first listener and he listens me XD hes good i like his nickname
Made me understand that my worries ain’t stupid and I can do it thankyou so much bear
great use of supporting language and makes you feel heard and helped ease some anxiety
Awesome listener. One in millions. Thank you :)
Was good listener, one of the best I've ever heard
Bear is an incredible amazing caring listener, even if I did not share in detail the reason of my struggle Bear provided me resources to distract my sad thoughts and gave me a positive feedback of being there to offer support.
Someone whose name I am gonna remember
It's a great listener.
Great listener, very compassionate and supportive
Bear is a very nice guy. He understood that I wanted a casual conversation and almost made it seem like I new him 😂 he is great!
Really comforting and easy to talk too!
A good listener, friendly! At the end of the chat you feel just beter and thats exactly how i felt!
They were very friendly and helpful.
Extraordinairy good listener!
The best person I've spoken to on here. genuinely cares ,listens and helps you directly , doesn't just give general advise but listens to you as an individual and how they can adapt to help you. Acts as a professional councillor not just a listener with long thought out responses.Made me feel not alone with really quick replies and calmed me down completely while I was having a panic attack. Has given me lots of advice for things coming up that I was worried about that I will put in to practice. I cannot thankyou enough and amazing person for what you do for people thankyou
This person knows how to talk to people struggling. If you wanna talk with them about something else than your problems they will just go on and be interested in what you're saying. Great experience, would recommend to anyone struggling :)
They were really kind! Listened carefully to everything.
Very good listening he knew exactly what to say
absolutely awesome!! i loved the chat and it was just so freeing to have a safe space where i could talk and be understood. bear reflected my feelings, empathised, and provided a non-judgemental zone where i could talk. thank you so much, bear!
Considerate, attentive, and detailed. If you want to go to any mods for complaints or concerns bear is one you can go to
Bear has helped me in more ways than she will ever know. She remains compassionate and does not judge. Best listener i've had, by far
Bear228 is always very helpful and empathic. Bear goes the extra mile!
Bear is always helpful, keeps chat supportive and always offers to be someones listener if they need help. Bear is one of my favorite listeners and moderators on the site.
Very understanding and professional. Thank you, you are such an asset to our community :)
Very helpful and supportive
You're so amazing
They are a great listener and makes me really feel listened to!
Very great listener
responsive, kind and profeesional
Love bear so much, helps alot, best listener that I had yet
Loved the chat! Made me feel so much better afterwards!
Fantastic!!
Thank you for listening to me . It really helped me a lot ! You are awesome !
Very caring listener...
very helpful
I was given advice but without feeling judged, I was feeling pretty low and confused and he was able to help me sort through my feelings.
Very empathetic and quick in responding!
good at support
kind and compassionate :)
Good listener recommend her
Amazing person to chat with
Caring, empathetic and kind hope she becomes the best out there
I was feeling really lonely then Bear228 helped me feel happier im now going to go out more, as i am motivated from her suggestions well they wernt really suggestions/ advice, it war more empathetic questions that made me realise some stuff. defo recommend her happy with this listener :)
Great one,, advise people to see her :)
Very empathetic, good response time, very satisfied, recommend her very much :)
Brilliant :)
Defo recomend her shes really nice and only just met her :)
She is the best, i want to talk to her all evening i cant wait to meet other memebrs like her and i advise people seek her help :)
Great, shes really brilliant :)
Very kind, empathetic, good to talk to, im really looking forward to doing some sports, thanks so much i am happy with this user and think she is very useful :)
friendly listenner
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Thanks to bears chats i am satisfied and i really suggest others to look at her too :) thanks bear you really helped me :)
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