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bag75
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help- absolutely heartbroken and led on
Relationship Stress / by bag75
Last post
 July 18th, 2020
...See more The realization that I was just led on and played the past few months has made me feel sick. I was "talking" with a guy I met initially in person but we wound up being long distance b/c he moved. For months, he made me feel amazing and tho I've never believed in love, I started to think I was falling in love with him. I developed concerns b/c throughout all this, he never talked about feelings for me or even complimented my appearance; it was always more emotional conversation and not at all flirtatious. So about 5 months in I ask him what the intent is here and we have a conversation that leads to to several suspicions 1) he never planned on dating me in real life or in the future and he never had; he didn't want to commit to me in anyway ever 2) he wanted an out 3) he refered to these "other variables" that to me meant him pursuing other girls. I decided to end it b/c of these suspicions but a few weeks later I felt guilt b/c everything was great when we were a thing and I had just been reading between lines. So i reached out after winding up in the same city just stating he always has me as a friend and thru our conversation then, he confirmed all suspicions were true. He's told me he's already with another girl and I saw on social media that they went out. I'm absolutely heartbroken and can't believe I let this guy play me for months. I feel dumb, stupid, naive, my self esteem tanked. But all I deperately wanted was to feel loved and to him it was a game.
Being friends with an ex- advice!
Relationship Stress / by bag75
Last post
 July 4th, 2020
...See more Hey so I had ended things ( mostly mutually but a little more me than him- my last words with him were that I was done with us) with a guy I'd been dating long distance 2 months ago. I ended up being in the same city as him sooner than I thought and I felt like enough time had passed that we could be friends. So I reached out to him about a week ago letting him know I was in town and that he always has a friend in me but he left me on delivered- so basically he's ignoring me. Before I ended it, he told me he wanted me to do what was best for me so I'm not sure if he's mad? or still has feelings? Idk if I should reach out again or just let him come to me when he's ready? I really miss him as a friend, as part of my life and I don't want to lose him. I also think I'm ready to be friends but how do I know for sure? Thanks!
Learning to love yourself more
Relationship Stress / by bag75
Last post
 June 19th, 2020
...See more Hi! I recently mutually ended a relationship with a guy but because of the relationship, I realized how self deprecating I am. I always felt like he was way too good for me and would leave me at any minute and I realized I needed to start loving myself wayy more, which I'm trying to do now that I'm single. I'm trying to become way more confident and trying to stop doubting myself and my abilities. Any advice on where to start learning to love myself now that I'm single?
Getting over someone you never officially dated
Relationship Stress / by bag75
Last post
 June 11th, 2020
...See more I had met this guy back in December and our connection was completely electric like out of this world incredible. We hung out all day at an event with mutual friends and went out for dinner after which was when i learned he was moving across the country a few weeks later for a job placement for 8 months. I tried to forget about him but he reached out and we decided to keep it going while he was away. But it got to a point where we were talking all day, every single day and late into the night. My feelings were getting so strong but with months left until we could give it a real shot in person. So we had a conversation and decided it was best to end. The hardest part for me getting over it is that I know we weren't comitted to each other but validating that my feelings were real. I find it easy to have relationships that are sexual in nature but this was purely emotional and was so special to me.Now, everytime I'm having a problem my immediate reaction is to want to talk to him about it because for those almost 5 months, he really did feel like my best friend. How do you deal with getting over intense almost relationships?
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