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"You are always one decision away from a totally different life."

Hello everyone, I'm known as Obs and I'm one of the members of the Community Management Team. 

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Do not say, "I am having a bad day." Say, "I am having a character-building day." - Les Brown

Have a wonderful day and thanks for stopping by!!


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Day 22: Create meaningful holiday traditions to cherish
7 Cups Online Therapy / by ASilentObserver
Last post
 2 hours ago
...See more Hello everyone, I hope you are doing well. This post is part of the 25 Days of Gratitude, Self-Care, and Personal Growth event at 7 Cups.  The pressure to experience joy and create cherished holiday memories can be overwhelming. The holidays can be a difficult time, especially if you spend them without loved ones. Whether you are far from family, lost someone close and loved one, or making conscious choices about your relationships, the holiday season can be daunting.  Traditionally speaking, holiday seasons are a time of joy, fun, and celebration but for many, it is a difficult time of the year when they experience heightened feelings of grief, loneliness seasonal depression, or anxiety. But it doesn’t mean you shouldn’t find something to be joyful. There are many ways to create meaningful and personalized holiday traditions that can bring comfort, joy, and a sense of connection, even during challenging times. 1. Revive and honor old traditions that you enjoyed  You may have some old traditions that you enjoyed but now you don’t do them anymore due to one or other reasons. But this season, you may rethink bringing some of those old traditions to cherish the memories associated with them. Such attempts can bring a sense of connection and continuity.  You can also choose to honor loved ones by creating personalized ornaments to hang on the Christmas tree like photos, and handwritten letters, or volunteer your time to special charities or causes.  2. Cook your favorite meal This one is my personal favorite as cooking your favorite meal is simply therapeutic. It doesn’t have to be anything fancy or a holiday feast, it can be as simple as making your favorite sandwich, toast, or some hot soup. The process of making your meal is calm and relaxing. So, just make an effort to make something for yourself this holiday season.  3. Gift something to yourself Giving gifts to yourself does not make you materialistic or selfish. It just makes you human. The gift can be anything that you like, maybe a book, a cup of coffee, some nature photographs or a meal at your favorite diner. It is one of the ways to celebrate yourself and a reminder that you deserve to feel good about yourself this season as much as anyone else.  So, let’s rethink how we spend our time this holiday season. I understand that it is a tough time of the year for you but know that you deserve time to be easy on yourself and try to be gentle and kinder to yourself. Please know the holidays don't have to be a time of sadness or isolation. Create your traditions to find joy, comfort, and a sense of purpose during this holiday season.  Let us know in the comments if you have any traditions of yours already or thinking of something to make one this year. 
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Post #2: Clarification on the Community Leader Badge
Group Support / by ASilentObserver
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more Hello everyone, I hope you are all taking care of your well-being. If you have spent time in the group support chats, you may have likely seen some members with a Community Leader role listed under their usernames.  Community Leader is a badge that acts as an umbrella for all group chat badges that used to be visible in the rooms. You can read more about it here.  [https://www.7cups.com/forum/groupmod/GroupSupportInformationandUpdates_822/WhatistheCommunityLeaderBadge_305740/] But this post is to address a challenge that members with the Community Leader badge have been experiencing lately. We received some feedback that they are seen as people who can’t have challenges if they possess this badge. This is a common misconception. The badge is actually a form of recognition to appreciate the above-and-beyond efforts of a member for their compassionate support in the group chats through certain activities like hosting a Sharing Circle session. It is a token of gratitude and an umbrella badge for some of the badges they might hold due to their group chat activities. Here is the list of all roles/ badges that fall under it.  [https://docs.google.com/document/d/1B1mgSyCwIYJzeli0bqK2QTB3mRATiBu3DkaYz6lo6h4/] However, it doesn’t mean a member with the CL badge can’t have struggles or can be less than any other member to get support in the group chats. A member is a member first and a community leader second. We hope this clears it up! I hope this helps. So let’s continue to be kind and supportive to them like other members as well as recognize and appreciate their dedication. Let’s continue to care for each other and be part of each other’s healing and recovery journey.  
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Day 20: Self-Compassion: How to Be Kind to Yourself
7 Cups Online Therapy / by ASilentObserver
Last post
 2 hours ago
...See more Hello everyone, I hope you are doing well. This post is part of the 25 Days of Gratitude, Self-Care, and Personal Growth event at 7 Cups.  Self-compassion is not selfish; it is essential for your well-being. I understand that some days can be hard. You had a bad day, you are feeling sick, you feel like you are not good enough, you are failing and making mistakes. What do you tell yourself when you experience a situation like this?  Do you indulge in negative thoughts? Or practice self-compassion and kindness?  Different research conducted on this, reveals that the deliberate practice of self-compassion can alleviate anxiety, stress, and intrusive thoughts. Self-compassion plays a pivotal role in coping with stress.  However, it is easier said than done when you are struggling and feeling low. Instead, many of us become our worst critics, and it becomes a constant loop. But somewhere, you have to get started to break this cycle.  Here are some exercises that you may try to practice self-compassion deliberately:  Exercise #1.  Self-Compassionate Letter  It is a powerful tool to practice self-kindness and understanding. It involves writing a letter to yourself, offering empathy and support, just as you would to a good friend. You can practice it as per your comfort either daily or weekly. Here is how you can do this:  * Write a letter to yourself as if you were a dear friend. * Acknowledge your struggles and difficulties with kindness and understanding. * Offer words of encouragement, support, and reassurance. * Read the letter aloud to yourself, allowing the words to sink in. Exercise #2. Self-Compassion Break Whenever you feel stressed, take a moment to practice a self-compassion break and you may feel more confident and composed. Here is how you can practice it:  * When you notice you are feeling overwhelmed or stressed, take a short break. * Find a quiet place and sit comfortably. * Take some comfortable deep breaths. * Repeat a self-compassionate phrase, such as  * "This is a difficult moment, but I can handle it.", * “It is okay to be not okay.”,  * “I believe in myself. I got this.”  * “I will get through this moment.” Exercise #3. Gratitude Practice Practicing gratitude regularly improves your mental health, strengthens your relationships, and increases your overall happiness. Here is how you can get started:  * Take a moment each day to reflect on what you are grateful for. It doesn’t need to be big ones. All small ones count too. * This could be anything from your health to your relationships to simple pleasures. * Focusing on the positive aspects of your life can help boost your self-esteem and overall well-being. * Never force yourself to be grateful. If you are struggling, share your challenges and what you are learning from them.  Questions for you * How do you practice self-compassion? * What is a barrier/ challenge that prevents you from practicing self-compassion?
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Day 15: Share a small act of kindness you witnessed or experienced
7 Cups Online Therapy / by ASilentObserver
Last post
 21 hours ago
...See more Hello everyone, I hope you are doing well. This post is part of the 25 Days of Gratitude, Self-Care, and Personal Growth event at 7 Cups.  A small act of kindness goes a long way.   The power of kindness is underrated in a world filled with daily challenges, struggles, and chaos. Kindness is a beautiful thing to give and experience. Experiencing kindness makes you believe in goodness. When you act kind to someone, they feel good and are inclined to pay it forward to someone else. A small act of kindness creates ripple effects, and it is a never-ending loop.  So this holiday season, let’s come together and practice kindness in any small ways.  Also let's spread some positivity! ✨ Share a small act of kindness you witnessed or experienced recently. It could be anything from a simple smile to a heartfelt gesture. Let's inspire each other to make the world a kinder place. ❤️
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Announcement: Community Birthday Project
Positivity & Gratitude / by ASilentObserver
Last post
 Thursday
...See more Hello, community,  I am excited to re-introduce the Community Birthday Project and this time with new improvements! What’s new in this project?  * It is focused on celebrating the birthdays of both members and listeners. So, if you are a listener or a member,  and your birthday is coming up and you would like to celebrate with the community, please do join us.  * Organize and host two birthday parties for both adult and teen sides at the start and end of the month to include all in the celebration.  * Easy access to the birthday calendar [https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1W5AiS4lyXiLjMf5neJhCbTOW7mq_VqiXXl9XlsYYrbc/edit?pli=1&gid=0#gid=0]to see whose birthday is coming up and everyone can share some birthday wishes or shoutouts for them through a short form (Click here) [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLScO4pUVNmBAj79ln-snz7Cnw_MsAS34Q1clwuuycY4i3obzwA/viewform] * We will need help! If interested in helping carry out these activities, join the Birthday Celebration Team (Click here for the application form) [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLScSaMpFRPSgHD1EQFFFMOO5shV6EtSQOXQIG4uE9sqZwbNO9w/viewform] Let’s get started by letting us know when your birthday is coming. We look forward to celebrating your special day with you. Click here to let us know your birthday date!  [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSeoAfZ-nB2E3T0rGEACbriaLMvaHENVvzjJVTQFxeMi6RmriA/viewform]
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Day 10: Building Resilience in Challenging Times
7 Cups Online Therapy / by ASilentObserver
Last post
 December 10th
...See more Hello everyone, I hope you are doing well. This post is part of the 25 Days of Gratitude, Self-Care, and Personal Growth event at 7 Cups.  Difficult times can test your resilience, but they also allow for building resilience and a progressive mindset. Resilience is the ability to bounce back from adversity, adapt to change, and find strength in the face of difficulty. It's a skill that can be developed and strengthened over time, and it's imperative in challenging times. The holiday season is often seen as a time of joy and celebration. However, it can also present different challenges for many. While the festive vibes tend to bring people together and have some good times, for many it can be a time of loneliness, stress, grief, and financial challenges.  Some of the common challenges during the holiday one may experience range from pressure to maintain a facade of happiness and joy to individuals who lost their loved ones experiencing loneliness and grief. So, it is important to acknowledge those emotions and experiences and understand holidays can be challenging for many people.  So to build resilience this holiday season or during challenging times, here are some tips that I found helpful and I hope you all can as well:  Start with a pause. To become resilient, it starts with knowing how your brain works. When you are dealing with stress, your brain works differently. So, instead of an instant reaction to anything, if one can try to take a pause, it can help you respond to stress in a better way.  Focus on developing healthy habits. When there is a challenge, it is hard to maintain routine and one can have trouble bouncing back if they are not taking care of their well-being. So, it is important to focus on maintaining a daily routine and developing healthy habits.  Have a problem-solving mindset. It can be hard to cope with and navigate challenging times. However, trying to have a problem-solving mindset encourages you to view these challenges as an opportunity to learn something new and explore solutions or ways to tackle these challenges.  Celebrate small wins. When you are experiencing challenging situations, it is important to identify and celebrate all small wins. Recognizing and appreciating these small wins allows you to feel more confident and empowered to deal with challenges and continue to take your small steps forward.  Resilience is a journey, not a linear process. The process of building resilience isn’t linear at all. It is more like a zigzag curve where someday you will be making some good gains and some days will be harder to make any progress. But that’s okay. It is part of the resilience process and your every step is counting towards it. So every time, there is a harder day, give yourself a pat and credit that you’ve gotten this far and you can take on the next thing that comes your way.  Questions for you:  * How is the holiday season challenging for you?  * What steps can you take today to further develop your resilience? 
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Thanksgiving edition: Would you rather poll results
Group Support / by ASilentObserver
Last post
 December 2nd
...See more Hello everyone,  I hope you all had a wonderful Thanksgiving. Thank you to everyone participating in the Would You Rather activity [https://www.7cups.com/forum/groupmod/GroupSupportCommunityEvents_2295/WouldyouratherpollThanksgivingedition_340956/] last week. We are glad all those who participated enjoyed the activity and eagerly await the poll results.  So, *drum rolls* Here are the slides showing the results of the Would you rather poll. Click here!  [https://docs.google.com/presentation/d/1cArAHQqC7uPHWfjMsFuBYEe4XmBYSKvGZJ69pcQaAe0/edit#slide=id.p] Thank you for being part of the community. You are all compassionate souls who make this community the safest place to be. 
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Cupsgiving 2024: Thank you for sharing 💗
Group Support / by ASilentObserver
Last post
 November 30th
...See more Hello everyone,  Thank you to everyone participating in our "Share Your Gratitude" event. Your heartfelt messages of gratitude filled our hearts with warmth and inspiration. We received 190+ submissions of gratitude shares and it was encouraging to see how our community practices gratitude.  Gratitude is an emotion involving thankfulness and appreciation for the good things in one's life. It is about recognizing and acknowledging the positive aspects of our experiences, relationships, and circumstances. It can be expressed in various ways, such as through words, actions, or simply through inner reflections.    Let's continue to spread positivity and gratitude, one kind act at a time. Your efforts making a difference and we appreciate your help and support doing that.   PS: If you are about to age up, please know you are not alone, We are all here to help you find support and resources. Click here for more info [https://www.7cups.com/forum/agingup/AgingUpSupport_1766/TeenTransitionFAQs_337189/]! 
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Wonderful person and friend. They are down to earth. Very helpful.
They made me feel a bit better and they took the time to explain things, so I could better understand. Thanks for your time.
I texted Obs although it was clearly mentioned on his bio that he wouldn't be able to take new member requests and it's all because I was unable to trust anyone else but him. And he didn't let me down. I never expected such humble and kind responses from anyone. I'm literally crying.... May God bless you and keep you safe and happy all the time.
Very kind and understanding, and fun to talk to
really observant and kind : ) obs is a great listener 100% recommend
this listener was emphatic loved chatting with obs would love to chat again.
Really well done on all accounts!
Obs is great
coolest coolest helpful person who knows how to take feedback and make a real difference on 7 cups
Obs has been tremendous support for me , always. I appreciate his presence in cups for responding promptly and doing what he can to be supportive of both listeners and members in 7 cups. Ive known him since around past 6 years and its always a pressure to see him in the rooms, the way he responds to people and his dicussions. It all shows his care and passion.
Really kind and helpful
really good listener!
Obs is always ready to help with questions and is very knowledgeable. It is a pleasure to have Obs here.
Best listener ever!
Helpful and open to understand
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incredible, good at time mangement
A very nice person. They try there best as Group Support Manager here at 7cups.
Very supportive. Very caring. Very understanding. Takes the time to listen to feedback from other Community Leaders. Very Professional. A very wise person.
ASlientObserver is a warm, caring person. They love being in group support. They are a good leader. They try there best to set a good example. They are good group support manager.
Always support and positive Sent information that is important to me to assistance me and also enhance my journey and support my chosen path.
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Obs is so patient, understanding, kind which makes them an amazing listener.
Obs is So helpful
We patient explaining answers to my questions.
Obs is such an amazing person, and I appreciate all of the contributions they have made to this wonderful community. Keep up the amazing work, and never change! ❤️❤️
An empathetic mind!
This person is very genuine and caring and honest. It was a shear pleasure interacting with them. I highly recommend them as someone to talk too and you should feel much much better afterwards. Definitely a pillar of this 7 cups community indeed. 10/10 service.
Obs is so nice and very patient. He is one of the best listeners there is, and I would give him a million stars if I could.
A wonderful person who goes the extra mile to make this a platform that is user friendly . They were patient responsive and very helpful.
He understands me. He just did thank you a thousand times
He's just the best
Really helpful and motivational
The best hands down so understanding and caring
He is a very nice person, he is willing to go extra mile just to help. He is deserves a million dollars tbh😂
Very good communicator and answers automatically when gets a chance, nice friendly too..
Obs is always pleasant and enjoyable to chat with, even in minor interactions. :)
A great listener who helped sort my emotions and lended a listening ear to my problems when no one was there to listen to them
He was very attentive, loyal, kind, Supportive and Empathetic Listener. Thanks you so much ASilentObserver 🥰♥️
Very attentive and considerate person, thank you for your help
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Very kind person. Encourages me a lot.
ASilentObserver was very kind and open to hearing my concerns. Also, very quick to respond and seemed forthright.
They helped me a lot just by listening, it was great talking to them.
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Hard worker. Amazing person.
thank you. You're wonderful
Hard working person for cups. Appreciate all that he does for us
Great person. Very Kind and very helpful.
Responds quickly and gets to the point.
Great Listener.
Super helpful, thanks so much
Always doing a great job. Very observant! ;)
Good hope we can continue
Great chat. I feel valued as a member.
*huggles* thank you soo much
They are very soothing.
Amazing listener! Thank you for taking the time to listen to my concerns and worries, and give real thought out answers which helped me realize things. It made me feel really listened to 💛
very patient listener
I was lucky to talk to him. He is knowledgeable on many topic and he understood me very well in short time. Gave me nice suggestion when asked. It was worth talking to him. Compassionate.. Empathy and have patient and easy to talk. definitely can be recommend to other. God bless you and you be happy always.
Great listener! Provided very helpful thoughts.
Helped me deal with the problem which was bugging me from a long time
I loved the chat.. it was what you might call refreshing... 😄
OBS is so caring
Really great listener
Very thoughtful in responses, really gives you a sense that they care and genuinely want to help
Really helped to talk things through
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Such a warm heart!🤗
Amazing Listener as always :) Makes me feel a lot better after our conversation :)
One of the best listeners I have ever met. Responds and is there whenever I needed him. Makes me feel a lot better!:)
He was very nice and understanding to me, and helped me talk through my anxiety. I had a good time talking with him.
very kind and amazing listener
I am so thankful for the help and useful tips that I get,great advice!
I find the support valuable and appreciate the advice
Really useful communucation,friendly,helpful advice
Thank you.
Great Listener:) empathizes with you and understands. Feel a lot better after our conversation :)
Thank you very much. Thanks for helping with Bipolar awareness / relationships -- very important topic.
I found some great support from @ASilentObserver and a genuine,caring attitude.I much appreciate his help!
An amazing and caring person. They helped me through a really rough time.
amazing person genuinely kind and caring always responsive really helped me in my time of need thank you so much
Very caring and helpful
Silent is awesome, as always. Great listener, always there when I need to talk to someone and provides a compassionate ear to my seemingly minuscule problems.
Awesome!!! Love Obs!
Super understanding and sweet, thank you!
Always help and has insightful inputs
Had a fruitful and enlightening session helped me see things clearer and understand better where I was lagging
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Understanding, smart, attentive, interactive, caring.
Obs is extremely helpful, understanding, and caring. I felt like I wasn't being judged, so thank you so much for your advice and I'll be coming again when I need more help!
Very helpful and understanding. She will lsten to what ever u have to say and try to help u sort out ur thoughts and help u with what's going on I highly recommend her
Thanks for your time
You're Kind. Thanks
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awesome as always and very helpful
Thank you silentObs. You have been really helpful.
Obs is such a lovely heart to chat with. Always having the nicest words to make a day go better. It's a sweet heart and caring person I every way.
Our conversation was awesome! Thank you @ASilentListener
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