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aquaSpruce8551
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Can we make a men’s issues community?
General Support / by aquaSpruce8551
Last post
 5 hours ago
...See more I’ve been trying really hard to find any avenue of support recently. I live in a major city and there are no men’s support groups where I am. There are few listeners on here that take men’s issues seriously. Finding a therapist where I am for men’s issues is extremely difficult with very few options. And I’ve attempted to post on here about what I’m dealing with just to hear crickets. theres a women’s issues community and it’s not like men don’t go through their own trauma and their own challenges. I want to not feel like there’s zero places to turn to get help which is basically where I am right now.
I feel pathetic and trapped
Trauma Support / by aquaSpruce8551
Last post
 October 24th
...See more I just don’t know where to turn anymore. It’s impossible to find a therapist right now where I am. I’ve tried talking to friends in the past about this. They’re not my friends anymore. No listener on here apparently is “equipped to deal with this”. I see well regarded people on here continuing to comment and be treated well despite comments they make that are hurtful and have perpetuated feelings I have because of trauma in my past. i grew up with neglectful and emotionally manipulative parents. I was a small boy and am still small as a young adult. As a teenager all of my intimate relationships were drowned in feelings of inadequacy, infidelity, and embarrassment. I had a friend who girls would often talk about because of his size. He exposed himself to me to intimidate me and make himself feel superior. We were at a party once when girls asked him to do this and he did. They glorified him for it. i have no one to talk to and help with this. I feel completely stuck and trapped in this feeling and it seems like it will never go away. But people on here feel completely justified in ignoring this, or insulting me further. I just don’t know what to do.
Can we be better?
General Support / by aquaSpruce8551
Last post
 October 27th
...See more I’m so frequently taken aback by how cruel people can be and we really should be trying to be more respectful especially on a mental health platform like this. somone posted on an “AskMen” thread what I thought to be a pretty reasonable question. It came with a bit of subtext to what the poster was feeling at the time and I can understand their frustration. They asked “why are men so easily threatened by women who know stuff and can talk intelligently and logically?” I thought this was a bit of a leading question and overgeneralized but I get it. People, including men, can be cruel and act poorly when they don’t have a clear and healthy perspective of themselves or the world. the post below it from (Information redacted - See site guidelines ) read “because they have small……, um, egos 😂”. this is disturbing how freely I find people making comments like this. It’s gross. It’s body shaming, and it’s misogynistic. I shouldn’t have to explain why this is despicable because my point is, why do we let this happen? Why are we so willing and encouraging towards misogynistic behavior that hurts men but ultimately everyone? like seriously I feel like I’m going crazy. I’m doing everything I can to get better. I’ve had to switch therapists and because of the psychologist shortage right now that is proving very difficult. I have spent years doing research on the things that impact my self esteem, and my body image as a man, I’ve lost friends because I’ve tried to reach out to talk to them about how I’m feeling, most therapists I’ve spoken to show very little empathy towards what I’m going through as a man who’s struggling with just feeling pathetic in a variety of ways. i feel like people think men don’t do anything healthy to try and resolve their feelings but as a man I feel like I’m screaming into the void and the void is telling me to shut up. I’m exhausted. Someone please tell me I’m not crazy.
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