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Lying
Personality Disorders Support / by anonymous1249
Last post
 May 11th, 2021
...See more Hi, Does anyone else compulsively lie as a self defense mechanism related to BPD. I really want to stop. How do I stop? Abigail Kern
Who's in the right?
Relationship Stress / by anonymous1249
Last post
 May 14th, 2021
...See more Hi Everyone, QUICK NOTE: I am going to post this same threat in the BPD thread because I have BPD and it'll be long. I don't know if anyone will be willing to read it but please please do. My boyfriend and I have been living together for almost two years, we have both moved across the country for one another, and we are in an extremely serious relationship. But I have always been more serious than him and put in more work and whatnot. We fight quite a bit and little things turn into big fights but a lot of that probably relates to a combination of my codependency issues rooting from my BPD and the fact that we've been quarantined together and not seeing anyone else for a year and a half. But anyways, for our relationship to work I need to overcome the codependency, we need to both become better communicators, we need to reach a higher level of understanding, and we need to learn to trust eachother (any tips to achieve these things would be a blessing). He's the love of my life, I give this relationship all I have even when we are at our worst points and I will do anything to make it better. One of the things I'm attempting to utilize in making it better is this app. I want to give a very objective description of our fights so that you guys can tell me what I'm doing wrong so I can fix it or if he's in the wrong so I can stick to my guns. My BPD leads me to eventually believe I'm always in the wrong which makes it hard to not let him walk all over me in certain situations, in other situations/most situations I am probably in the wrong though. Anywaysssss, he was not in a good place so I spent a bunch of money to try to get him out of that dark place and have fun with him despite my law school final exams coming up and I thought we could avoid fighting but he's gotten upset with me multiple times and I don't really understand any of them: (or what I did) please tell me... 1. My bf doesn't like a certain perfume that I wear so I didn't wear it but then as soon as he saw me he complained about the smell regardless and asked to buy me a new one which was nice but I got defensive about the fact that I wasn't wearing it but he argued with me and told me that I was wrong and that I shouldn't be defensive, which may be true but I felt that I did need to say that I wasn't wearing it because I wasn't. I know it's weird but like I said, little things turn into big things. He decided eventually that the perfume had soaked into my bag somehow and that I should have known and washed it and not been defensive. 2. We went to the beach and on the way there he had a conversation with me about how I can't have any expectations about doing stuff and I can't ask to do anything because it will stress him out. I got defensive and said that I wasnt trying to pressure him and that we didnt need to be at the beach, and that I'm just happy to be around him but he got mad at me for being defensive again and claimed that I still stress him out by just asking questions about what we're doing after he's already answered questions and being defensive. 3. Somehow it came up in conversation that I should avoid looking at his FB because of other girls posted on there and so I raised my concern about him never having posted me on social media and he got very upset with me for this. Do I have a right to be annoyed about that or does he have a right to me mad at me for.being annoyed about that? Idk Also, how do I be less defensive? Sorry it's a lot.
Law School Stress
Student Support / by anonymous1249
Last post
 September 23rd, 2022
...See more Law school is extremely stressful and I feel like I am going to have a mental breakdown 99% time. I better get a job after making it through all this stress. Any like-minded individuals out there want to mutually support one-another?
When do you give up?
Relationship Stress / by anonymous1249
Last post
 May 9th, 2021
...See more Hi, Quick Note: I'm kind of new to this whole thing, but I would love to find like-minded people who maybe suffer similar struggles so that we can support one another and get through this. I have been in a relationship for almost two years and we have been unhappy for a lot of that. Lets just say the universe has not been on our side but we still manage to get through everything that comes our way. We have each had to move across the country for the other person on more than one occasion, we have been isolated together due to COVID, we are both fairly damaged, etc. but we have gotten through it all. But when we fight, which is a lot, it's like world war three because we are so passionate and love eachother so much. It's like the people you love are the most capable of hurting you with something as simple as a communication issue or issue with understanding. We have almost broken up so many times but we can't. It's hard to explain. But I would do anything to work through our problems and be with him for the rest of my life. However, we need to find a way to communicate, understand, and stop hurting eachother. Please HELP! And if you support me I'll be happy to support you as well :) any advice is greatly appreciated
Buddy Support for Overcoming BPD?
Personality Disorders Support / by anonymous1249
Last post
 May 11th, 2021
...See more Hi, I am fairly new to this whole thing but I'm hoping to find some people to talk to on this app. Most of my life, I searched for answers as to why I am the way I am and recently it became clear that I have BPD which is sort of a blessing in disguise because when you uncover what the problems is, you can finally take steps towards overcoming it. However, I have already self isolated for a long time so it would be great to find a like-minded person on here for mutual-support purposes. Help eachother along this journey. I'll be a great friend to you if you'll be a great friend to me. (;
Looking for a Work Out Buddy
Healthy Living / by anonymous1249
Last post
 July 1st, 2021
...See more Hi, I'm kind of new to this whole thing and am not entirely sure if y'all even still post on this thread. However, I am using this app in hopes of finding like-minded people to mutually support one another. I am hoping to make some positive changes in my life, which includes working out everyday as a positive outlet for stress. I'm great at motivating others. Who wants to motivate me? Lol (;
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