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Ageing parents & guilt
Family & Caregivers / by anonuser2023
Last post
 October 12th, 2023
...See more I feel like an absolutely terrible person for saying what I'm going to say, but I know this is a safe space where we can be honest... Without going into all the details, my family raised me the way they thought best and provided for my physical needs, however, they have never been emotionally available or supportive. As an adult, there was a time when they abandoned me completely for a few years over a disagreement about beliefs, and they have not been there during the most challenging times in my life. We get along on the surface now and play nice, but as my parents age it feels like any time I visit I'm just there to do things for them. They're dealing with difficult issues themselves, and I have zero interest or energy in being there for them because it will be one-sided and draining. At this point, all the help I give is out of guilt. It is so hard to know where to draw my boundaries with them because I feel like I want to make them extreme and minimise my contact with them. Can anyone relate?
Discouraged about career change
50 & Over Community / by anonuser2023
Last post
 September 22nd, 2023
...See more I used to have my own business and got burnt out. I've been fortunate to be able to take a few years to travel, do a masters program, and reassess. But now that I'm getting serious about building a second career - I've hired a coach, I'm reading all the things - I just feel so discouraged. Applying for jobs is soul-*** enough (I've been self-employed most of my life) and I don't even know what half the job titles mean, let alone have the skills people are looking for. I'm willing to retrain to a point, but even then I feel like I've lost my professional networks and don't even have people to ask about potential opportunities. I thought recruiters would be more helpful in identifying roles my skills could transfer to. It's all making me feel like I'm lazier and less accomplished than I thought I was. Ugh.
Starting over in 50s = overwhelming
Work & Career / by anonuser2023
Last post
 August 25th, 2023
...See more I'm fairly new to 7cups and wasn't sure which forum to post in - Depression (because this is really messing with my head) or Over 50s (since I think that is adding pressure in this situation) - but this seems like a good spot. I've had a fairly non-traditional job history - lots of tourism and customer service work in my 20s & 30s, built a real estate career in my 40s but got burnt out. I've tried a few new things since (did an MA, worked in TV). Now I'm stuck with the feeling that I did everything wrong because I don't have a current career and am not set up for retirement. The thought of starting a new career at this point is daunting, and I've lost a lot of self-confidence. Such as, maybe I'm not successful because I'm not as smart as I thought I was, or I'm unable to commit to anything. I also feel so limited because the cost of rent / buying has increased so much that I hardly even know where to live. I have a history of jumping into things too quickly, so I'm trying to take some time to consider my next moves but I feel lethargic and uninterested in anything. I watch a lot of TV and it just feels like wasting time. I just needed to get that off my chest, so thanks for listening.
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