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Being Hired for an Internship. What should I do?
Anxiety Support / by ading2
Last post
 January 6th, 2023
...See more Hi all, It's been a long while since I posted in this forum. But today I have an eventful story to say. Early this week, I received a message saying that I was hired to work for a government internship program. The internship is when I work for the Department of Commerce's IT Branch, and it's paid because being with the government means I receive lots of good benefits ranging from health to insurance. Sadly, it wasn't long for me to experience overwhelming feelings of dreadfulness and loss of motivation and symptoms like clenched teeth, and increased appetite. This is actually because I already have another job in the picture; a freelance Music Teacher. I actually applied as a freelance music teacher back in late 2021, and over time I gained a reputation of being liked by my students. For those wondering what I do, I go to other students houses to teach them the concepts of music and assist them with homework given to them by their other teachers. I teach a total of 15 students and host 20 lessons every week over the course of the job, as some of my students wanted more than just one lesson a week. My goal for this job is to attract more students which is what my current job status was about. Let me admit, the internship actually wasn't my idea, but it was my mom's. The reason why she wanted me to apply for the internship is because it would provide a good financial boost, which would help bring me one step closer to my overall life goals, as my current job is not enough to reach there. I was in a tough position of choosing to let which one go, as not only my parents would get mad at me for turning down the internship, but also I don't want to see my students' sad faces for choosing to leave my current job. To that end, my mom unsolicitly advised I should get it over with, because I could at least work on the internship's morning shift, and go teach in the afternoon. I feel this would never be the same for me because I feel I barely have time to relax or even take naps as if I wanted to prepare to go see my students. And that's my eventful story. What do you guys think? Please comment below. Do you think I really should stand up to the internship? Should I adapt once I face the it? What have you guys reacted and took action with when you have to add another job to one that you are so good at? That's the question coming from this story?
How should I deal with my anxiety from an authoritarian mother?
Anxiety Support / by ading2
Last post
 February 28th, 2022
...See more I was currently staying at home alone with my parents. My younger sister was out to college, which gave my parents (e.g. my mother) an ample chance to watch over me. My issues with my mom started ever since COVID-19 overwhelmed the world back in early 2020. At first, they were so small, but as the year progresses into 2021, it gets even worse. Here is a list of things mom has done which left me feeling anxious, stressed and of course, depressed: -She sets many demands that I have to follow or live up to. These demands include waking up or going to bed regularly, being more productive and communicative, cutting down on making mistakes and changing my present behaviours. -She sets many strict rules like keeping my room, bathroom and closet, closing containers, doors, cabinets, and lights when not in use, no watching scary stories that involve death, rituals and or violence, always preparing routes, documents and other needs to bring when heading somewhere, no eating too much fatty and or sugary foods, and no taking naps. -She would often punish me each time she catches me breaking her rules or making mistakes. These punishments include having my cellphone taken away, not being rewarded her delicious meals, being ordered to work downstairs under her supervision, turning off our home's internet, disabling my phone's internet service provider, and even worse, kicking me out of her house, especially by means of calling the police. If this wasn't enough I even heard she was planning to install surveillance cameras at some point. -She shows little care and does not acknowledge my emotional repercussions from her overbearing habits like talking for more than 30 minutes, or mentioning too much information, be it new, trivial or recurring. All she cares on the other hand was getting today's work done. -She says many shameful phrases like "You're hopeless!" "You're stupid!" "You're wasting yourself!" "If you leave me like this, you'll regret it sooner or later!" "I'll change when you change!" "Don't give me that face!" -She even gives unsolicited advice like "Get used to it." "Respect me!" "Be Thankful!" "Use Your Brain!" "Ask!" etc. -She keeps mentioning the same stuff over and over again, even at one point constantly suggesting I should leave if things never work out. -She constantly compares me to my friends, my sister, some role models like the late Kobe Bryant, James Gardner, Lang Lang, and even my past high school self. She tries to claim she was helping, but her actions show otherwise. -Of all these things, she has a motive; she was worried that my current attitudes and behaviors would place a negative impact on my health, my relationships, my working environment, my own well-being, my finances and even my future. I know I have so much more to say about my mom, but this list covers everything on why is my mom acting so authoritarian which gave me lots of stress. If anyone has some ideas on how could I deal with a mom like this, please comment down.
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