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adequatelyInadequate
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Can someone please make a thread...
Trauma Support / by adequatelyInadequate
Last post
 March 23rd, 2021
...See more Sorry, can someone please make a thread that focuses on negligence? Also, how do you know if something is verbal/emotional abuse or negligence? How can I, as an older sibling (I’m 21) shelter the kids from the worst of it, specially when I’m disabled and have very limited money (also, no, I can’t get custody)? Is there a way to strong arm someone into seeking professional help? What happens when you truly believe they’re trying- they’re just toxic anyway? Are they abusive then, or just going through a rough time / in need of help / a bit toxic / old school?
The recent ban on role playing
Trauma Support / by adequatelyInadequate
Last post
 November 12th, 2021
...See more Hi! I know this may seem as out of the blue, but after a traumatic event in my life (after whatever internal order I had between the “parts of myself” dissolved,) I turned to mental health communities for support. Now, one problem? People often assumed I was role playing. It made sense- I switched without realizing it, and my alters would all interact with the communities I was in through the same account, while calling themselves different names / things, speaking with different mannerisms, being different ages, and occasionally telling the same story through radically different point of views- as though everyone had lived through the same, but had different opinions and remembered different parts the clearest. It was messy. And it took _months_ and a lot of luck for someone to realize I might be dealing with this pesky little thing called dissociation. Before that happened, I was just accused of either being a troll, a liar, or an attention-seeker (and asked if I had a concussion one memorable time.) But 7 cups is meant to be a mental health resource and safe space for _everyone._ So, are there any measures that can be taken to avoid anyone falling through the cracks? To avoid those who are still clueless about what’s going on in their heads or who lack control over who fronts or end up with a fresh new alter who comes here maybe looking for help, maybe just because they’re curious, being accused of role playing?
What are badges for?
Newbie Hub / by adequatelyInadequate
Last post
 April 6th, 2021
...See more Sorry, I know this might seem silly, I just keep getting the notifications saying that I’ve earned one badge or another and I just ...?
What to do when you are a caregiver- but require a caregiver too
Family & Caregivers / by adequatelyInadequate
Last post
 March 11th, 2021
...See more Hello everyone. I’m 21 years old and I’ve spent the past 3 years getting help for my mental health issues as well as chronic pain and physical disabilities. I am now fresh off a group home and living with my step-father and my two younger siblings (7 and 11.) I realize I still need someone to care for me in a lot of sometimes small, sometimes not-so-small ways— however, I arrived home to find the kids basically caring for themselves. If they have homework, it’s up to them to do it; they know how to cook and occasionally do (when they stay alone) and they’re in charge of cleaning the place. If they want to eat off of clean plates, they wash them. If they want clean clothes, they hand-wash them. They sweep from time to time. They eat by themselves (if they feel hungry.) The house is invaded by cockroaches and fleas. Everything you touch is greasy. The place is, to sum it up, disgusting. We do have some support from extended family but I feel like it is not nearly enough. Due to this, I’ve automatically gotten pushed towards a caregiver role. They’ve already asked me to cook several of their favorite meals. Despite how hard it is for me, I’ve cleaned the bathroom and kitchen as well as can be expected with the products at hand, and I’m already planning how to continue cleaning. I’m helping them to attend to “their” responsibilities as well as I can, and I’ve also started helping them with their studies (their actual responsibility.) Besides that, I’m also there for the small things, like hearing about their day and sharing a meal. I’m terrified I won’t be able to keep it up: I’m truly not the person best fitted for the job. I’m also terrified I’ll hurt them. But I don’t really have where to go, and truth be told, I don’t know if I’d be able to leave them behind like that. Not unless I felt I was doing more harm than good. So I’m turning to all of you for tips and tricks to help me take care of both myself and the lil ones. I thank my lucky stars for having found this community, which truly does seem like a safe space. Thank you for reading, and I hope you can leave some kind words my way.
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