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Zevia1MM
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Hi friends
Autism Support / by Zevia1MM
Last post
 June 27th
...See more I was wondering if anyone could give me some resources or groups for women with ASD? 
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Question about 7Cups
General Support / by Zevia1MM
Last post
 June 21st, 2023
...See more Is there a community for people 18 years or older? If so would someone be able to provide a link or smn? Thank you :)
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Toxic habits I guess?
General Support / by Zevia1MM
Last post
 December 22nd, 2022
...See more Several months ago, I was in a toxic online community and spent ages believing that everyone had unfairly blamed me for how unhealthy the place had gotten, and in some respects, I'd been unfairly judged, but lately I've been having the ugly realization that maybe...maybe the problem was somewhat me and I [even though it was unintentional and I was unaware of my behaviors] was a toxic person -Though not with intent to cause harm, I put on a persona with people, figure out what they like, and use that to bond with them. I have slowly come to the realization that indulging in such behavior could be taken as manipulative, and even catfishing, -I hate watching people suffer, and want them to see me as helpful/a good person, so I tend to be overly sweet sometimes. Again, I have slowly come to the realization that such a thing could be considered manipulative. -I have trouble dealing with conflict, mostly because I am often unable to handle criticism and have a fear of confrontation. -I tend to self-deprecate and blame myself, and when people take up their criticisms of me, my instinctive reaction is to self-deprecate and ruminate on those feelings. That may come off as victimization and I suppose isn't something that's healthy. -I'm not often confrontational and can be secretive about certain aspects of my feelings on them. That may also be seen as problematic -Sometimes I can self-deprecate myself into a rut and just feel compelled to leave a relationship with someone [not as punishment, but because they've hurt me so deeply and I want to avoid getting hurt] I'm starting to feel horrible about my toxic behavior, and wish I could go back and apologize for everything but I just have to accept who I was back then, and that I hurt the people I hurt rather intentionally or not because there's no use going back to that community now. It's hard though, accepting that I really was an awful person, and probably a bad friend/fake person and other people saw me as such, when I wasn't even trying to be. The whole time I'd just seen myself as a good person who was trying to do the right thing.
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I have to know - Once Upon A Time show
TV & Movies / by Zevia1MM
Last post
 November 23rd, 2022
...See more Is anyone here familiar with the show Once Upon a Time?
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What's something you wish more people understood about having ASD?
Autism Support / by Zevia1MM
Last post
 November 21st, 2022
...See more For me the list is fairly easy -ASD mean that there's a difference between how I see myself and how people see me so I don't always see how action A will lead to consequence B I often experience a disconnect between how I view me and how people view me. ***. I automatically think other people see the things I say and do the same way I do and miss how what I'm saying or doing come across or how others may view it. -ASD means that I can go into emotional overload and pull an ASD doorslam Emotionally charged situations [especially conflicts] tend to give me an emotional overload so I often pull what I call an ASD doorslam and cut myself off from the person causing me to be emotionally overwhelmed, and self-isolate with people who make me feel safe. People think it's because I hate them, or don't care about them when it's not really the case. Sometimes I just need space to process events and regulate my own emotions. I'm not the kind of person who can just automatically deal with conflict when it happens. I need time for reflection and I'm slower to see other peoples views. But it doesn't mean I'm incapable of seeing things from other's perspective. It just means it takes time. -ASD means I have a unique brand of empathy The way I view people isn't neurotypical but it doesn't mean I don't care. I can be sympathetic but not exactly empathetic, or sometimes vise versa. I go through these on and off periods of caring for someone to an insane degree and not caring for someone? Also while I don't view people as objects I have a *special* preconceptions about who they are supposed to be and how they fit into my inner-world if that makes sense? And if they don't fit that mold it can be confusing and overwhelming for me. Another thing I wish they understood is that sometimes I form attachments to people not exactly because of who they are but I get attached to their place in my world and form a rhythm in how I interact with them and get attached to that rhythm? But at the same time it doesn't mean I don't care about them at all, or use them. -ASD means I won't automatically understand things Given the way my brain works, I'm not good at filling in the blanks. I don't always get that A leads to B. Sometimes I'm only seeing A, or I'm only seeing B or sometimes I think B is actually C or A is actually D. Sometimes you'll have to be patient with me and explain. Finally and the number 1 thing I wish people understood... -I have extreme anxiety about the way people see me Oh my goshhhhh the world would be a tremendously better place if more people understood that I can get emotionally overwhelmed in situations neurotypical people can handle, and that I have severe anxiety about the way people see me. It's not so much that I don't want to socialize, I'm perfectly capable of that, it's just that I can get severely self-conscious about other peoples opinion of me, that, and I socialize in a way neurotypicals don't. Don't get me wrong imao, I'm shy as a fawn, but give me a chance to talk about my interests, or give me a social pattern I'm familiar with and I'll talk nonstop :P Anyway yeah, that's my two cents on what I wish more people understood about having ASD :P
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