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Sudden cold shoulder
Relationship Stress / by WildEarth
Last post
 September 11th, 2015
...See more My apologies for posting this twice. I did not know which was the more suitable forum, Romantic or Friendship as the situation sits on the boundary line between both. This is my problem: I had a fling with a work colleague for a few months. I would have liked to have taken it further, however he is a Bangladeshi Muslim and I am a English Christian. His family would have had a problem with the relationship. I know this for a fact because his uncles (who we also worked with) first marriage was to an English women. Although the family had allowed it, the one most against it was his sister (and my colleagues mother.) The fact that the marriage didn't last did not help the families attitude towards mixed relationships. And so my colleague made it clear that he could not give me what I wanted as he could not hurt his family in such a way. So gradually the fling came to an end but we still remained really good friends. Swapping funny texts, chatting about silly random stuff and acting weird in front of each other like all good friends do. We were also an unstoppable team in the office and worked really well together. But then suddenly two weeks ago he just completely cut me off. He will only talk to me or answer my texts if they are work related. He now avoids working with me as much as possible. In meetings if the only spare seat is next to me, he will grab another from the other office and place it as far from me as possible. He also avoids looking at me even when we do talk about work issues he will keep his eyes fixed on his computer or another colleague if present. For my part I can not think of anything I may have said or done to cause him to suddenly act this way towards me. I did try and talk to him about it but when I asked if I had done something he just said no and then left the room. This situation is killing me as I really valued our friendship and it's also taking the joy out of my work day. I appreciate every ones advice, but am most eager to hear from a guys point of view. Would you and why would you just suddenly cut someone off in such a way? Thanks in advance for your help.
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