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Varah
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I'm so confused.
Trauma Support / by Varah
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 April 21st, 2015
...See more I've been dating this guy with aspergers for almost 7 months now. In the beginning of our relationship we were very close and intimate but after I was diagnosed with anxiety I was unable to be intimate again. It made me very uncomfortabl . We went to therapy for it and I discovered that me uncomfortable with sex was because when I was younger I was molested by an older cousin for a really long time and I never dealt with those feelings so now its really affecting me. He knows this but he would still ask for small intimate activities. I would say no but he would keep asking and begging until I finally said yes so he would leave me alone. He's sexually frustrated I know. But he doesn't understand how I feel about sex. How can I enjoy something that was used against me for so long? My feelings from so long agoare very confusing to me. So recently I wome up to him having sex with me and I started panicking because I didn't know what was going on. I started pushing him away and that's where he started panicking saying he didn't know what he was doing. Now my feelings are even more confusing and I don't know what to do. I want to break up with him. One of my friends keeps telling me that it was a mistake and I know that but I don't know if I can trust him again. Now he's claiming that he has sexomnia. I don't know what to believe. Is it really wrong of me to break up with him even though he keeps telling me that he's sorry and he wants to fix it? Am I being stubborn because I feel hurt by his actions and I dont want to forgive him? Why? I'm so confused
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