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Therindesign84
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Family & Caregivers / by Therindesign84
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 July 24th, 2021
...See more Hello all, I'm new here and someone suggested I post on this forum about my situation. Wish you all the best! I'll jump right in and just lay it all out there. So I've managed to put myself into a difficult and strange situation. My ex and I were together for 11 years. We broke up, she had a kid with someone else-that guy turned out to be a horrible person and beat the child, and is now serving 15 years in prison. Seeing as the ex and I were still friends I stepped in to help her out and ended up becoming this kids dad, and no the ex and I are not romantically linked in any way. She needed help and I decided to help. Now this kid is 3 1/2 and the ex is with another guy and just had another child. The guy seems like a very solid dude and doesn't mind having me around. Now I love this kiddo, and he absolutely adores me, but I'm also feeling this massive need for change in my life. I'm in a city and a house I don't want to be in. I'm tired of having a mortgage hanging over my head, and I just want to live more simply and take better care of myself. I'm faced with this basic decision: Stay where I am and take care of the kiddo or Sell my house and build a little shack on my brothers' land and help take care of my aging parents. I'm so torn between these options because I can't bring myself to hurt the kid-he's too damn sweet. But I'm also hurting myself just being here. Of course there's more complicated stuff going on, but this is the basics of the situation. I know I got myself into this mess, lol. Damnit. Thanks for lreading, hopefully that wasn't too much.
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