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StarrySkySarah
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PathStep 4 Compassion hearts29 Forum posts6 Forum upvotes4 Current upvotes4 Age GroupAdult Last activeAugust, 2021 Member sinceJuly 31, 2021
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No support at work
35 & Over Community / by StarrySkySarah
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August 10th, 2021
...See more I have a really cool job and I love it. But I recently took a job I thought was a good opportunity only to have a supervisor that does nothing but make me feel like a burden and that I am not doing a good job. Earlier today she even told me I was distracting her from her work and dealing with me is exhausting. I know she is busy and stressed but I don't feel like it's right to project and take it out on me. In the interview and initial meeting I was very honest and forthcoming about my experience, abilities, and where I would be gaining experience by taking this job. I also was forthcoming about the fact that I need clear and open communication, and would have to ask a lot of questions, and that I will require positive feedback in addition to criticism. So far she has yet to provide any of that. When I ask questions or for clarity, or try to answer her questions about my work, I just end up feeling stupid. I had to reach out to my other supervisor but after her telling me today that she can't get her work done and is exhausted by me I have a feeling I won't have a Jon anymore come Monday and I'm scared because I have no saving or anything and I have never been let go from a job. My bosses have always praised my work ethic and told me I do a good job despite needing a lot of communication. I am 36 and in all my years of working I have never encountered an environment such as this and I am at a complete loss.
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Not feeling good enough
35 & Over Community / by StarrySkySarah
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September 10th, 2021
...See more I am about to turn 36. A guy that broke my heart always ends up back in my life and only giving me the bare minimum. He tells me he still thinks about me, fantasies about me, etc. It always gives me a tiny thread of hope that maybe he is in love with me. But then I end up feeling like he only cares about me sexually with no regard for me as an actual person. We haven't seen eachother in almost 2 years but I am still heartbroken. I tried cutting him off which worked for almost a year. I don't know why I just can't let this go. If I had friends in my position I'd tell them they're being ridiculous. But I just can't help this feeling that we are still deeply attached and I should never give up. I decided to stop trying so hard to control the situation. But I am so afraid he will meet someone else eventually and move on. Even though he broke up with me because he admittedly is afraid of commitment and intimacy. I just wish I had more insight than "he's trash just move on". He isn't trash or I wouldn't have fallen in love with him.