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What's wrong?
Relationship Stress / by SpringSunshine
Last post
 November 24th, 2023
...See more Hi. Lately, I've been feeling no interest in my relationship. I feel like something is missing... I don't know what that is specifically, and It's making me sad that I've been like this for months already. Whenever I listen to love songs, I don't feel in love. I feel nothing at all My bf and I have been together for almost 4 years now, and we've been through a lot already I thought things that come to your relationship make the relationship stronger, but why do I feel like as time passes, as we prolong our relationship, we're like... falling apart? I don't know what to do since he is too busy surviving on his work and If I will open this to him, it will just add to his worries and burden.  It's saddening really. Can you help me? I appreciate your answers and suggestions. Thank you!
GOOD NEWS (APRIL 10)
Relationship Stress / by SpringSunshine
Last post
 April 11th, 2023
...See more After nth yrs of being together, he started dreaming of me again. I just feel like posting this thread because, I feel so loved at this moment. I want to cry thinking how he got to dream of me again. It's been always me who dreams about him leaving me/cheating on me or anything related to him for the recent years of us being together. I always wondering if he also dreams the same or if there is a chance that I shows up in his dreams too. Yes, he did, but that was years ago. I think first year of us dating, he often dreams about me with him, me leaving him, etc., But whenever I asked for these recent years, he doesn't say that much that I shows up in his dreams. I don't know if this is kinda weird to all of you, but this thing means a lot to me. Dreaming about a specific person also means, you think of him/her most of the time. Proven with my own personal experience. I think I should celebrate this small progress in our love life.... He is coming back to his old self that I have met years ago. I want to cry. Tears of joy of course. *Me putting anti-jinx for this happiness to lasts forever* Cheers!!
I feel apathetic idk what to do
General Support / by SpringSunshine
Last post
 January 22nd, 2023
...See more Im on a phase of feeling apathetic and dead again. Idk what causing this feeling. In fact, I have a huge support system- my family, boyfriend, friends and churchmates. They all rooting and believing in me especially my family... they gonna round all over the world and do whatever it takes just to support me in my uni financially, physically and emotionally. I just feel so guilty that I cant make them proud. I feel like I don’t deserve their efforts. It is not that I dont make an effort to get this degree and be successful in life, but I just dont do well. I failed a couple of times in my courses and It’s disappointing that I always do my best but still fail.. so i feel guilty with those people supporting me all in. You may say that this time I should be grateful and get that experience to do better and be motivated but why do I feel the opposite of it except ofc of being grateful because am really grateful for all of my people. Just, I dont feel motivated with it and no matter what I do or think, those experiences of failure just keeping me feel like literally failure. Additionally, I also have something that’s keep bothering me with my current relationship. This issue was an issue before and I feel like giving up already. Nothing is changing for better. Ah, a little maybe... we didnt argue and fight like we had years ago. But our relationship rn feels stagnat, and everytime a situation happen, all memories that we once had argued with, keeps on flashing to my mind and it making me feel like giving up because I feel like its just a cycle. Idk if am just drained of the stress I feel lately thats why I wanna give up on this one even though I really dont want to. But I just couldnt take anymore baggage. Its weird that I should feel heavy but I dont feel anything at all. Its like a complete “im done about all of this” I just wanna stop or just disappear. I dont want to mind that I have family to make them proud of me, I dont have to mind about people. I just wanted to stop. Idk what to do.
I cut the root
Anxiety Support / by SpringSunshine
Last post
 January 1st, 2023
...See more Hi, it's been a while since the last time I posted here on 7 cups. I took hiatus for a bit because I think I was doing well on my life already and also; I was busy with my acads... everything works on my favor too. There's nothing to worry or what, not until the month of November until now started, I noticed that I kept thinking about things that I shouldn't be thinking about. Everything is fine... but when I recall all things happened back in 2021, where it became the root of my depression, it troubles me. again. I started stalking people again that became part of my jealousy and madness, because I don't know... You know the instincts? My instincts drowning the *** out of me. My bf and I were good now. We don't fight like what we always had before, but there are times that I wanted to talk to him about things but afraid to do so because he might think I'm crazy for thinking that way... but then these instincts are confusing me. I don't know like maybe am just overthinking about it? or but maybe not? I'm just so mad about this girl who throws shadows on her posts. Saying that, she misses him, the moments they had when they were together, the fact that she knows he has a girlfriend but keep on posting like telling the world how happy and proud she is he has a guy who she's hitting with that has a girlfriend. And all her posts, I got to connect the dots. It triggers me. Like no joke. My anxiety started. My mental health is at risk, but I couldn't stop doing these things that put me into this. Days passed by, I decided to cut the root. I decided to not stalk any females that are related to my bf. But- it didn't end my crazy thoughts. Those posts I've seen, it stuck on my mind. I know for sure that am not healed. Thinking what happened during the year 2021, it crashed me my soul. I thought am okay now, but I realized I was just suppressing these feelings inside. I thought maybe this will just go away eventually, but it's not. It still troubles me. I really wanted to have a deep talk with my bf about us. About our issues back then, issues with ourselves and everything. But we do not have that kind of affection, he doesn't do that kind of stuff. He has this principle that actions are proof to all. I don't disagree with him. He shows me how much he loves me. He really does everything to show his love, but when it comes to this stuff, he is not that guy. I do not know how and when is the right time to tell him my suppressed feelings. He is already planning about having a house, having kids, marrying me... but I don't want to jump into that without being fully healed. All I wanted is to talk to him, that maybe someday, he will have the initiative to discuss our issues and eventually will put end to this suffering I've been feeling the whole time. I kept on praying. I hope Lord answers my prayers.
What should I do? I love him so much
Relationship Stress / by SpringSunshine
Last post
 September 10th, 2022
...See more Hello everyone. I'm completely confused right now. I'm hoping that by discussing my situation with you, I might relieve some of my sufferings. I have a boyfriend, who is very nice, caring, loving, and helpful. We've been together for almost three years and counting. We fought last night about his phony account. I discovered he had one, which enraged me since why would he create a dummy account? I pressed him to tell me the truth, and he said he was conversing with someone else there. But when I asked him what his fake account was for, he replied he created it so he could vent to other people about his issues, because his problems are me and my family. He stated that he did not like of my mother's attitude because of the debts. My mother asked his help when we needed to pay expenses. Unfortunately, my mother has not returned the money she borrowed due to excessive household costs. That doesn't mean she won't repay him. Second, my brother's attitude, because they have opposing political viewpoints. My additional siblings will follow... Why? Just minor details like chores. Then, of course, there's me. I am a sensitive and envious lady he said. He stated that he was tired enough because of my attitude. He stated that he become miserable as of the beginning of 2022 because of us. I was deeply hurt so much that my chest feels sore, and I can't breathe. I was broken. I'm at a loss for words. I had no idea he was having problems with my family. Despite all he said about them, I'm not sure I'll stay with him, but I love him with all my heart. I'm utterly confused. I assumed it was fine to him to lend money to my mother because he was trying to help her. It wouldn't have been so horrible if he had told me sooner since I could have asked Mom to prioritize this debt. It wouldn't be so horrible if he opened it to me instead of others. I didn't answer to his message until this evening since I wasn't sure what to say. I'm still hurt, and I don't think it'll go away.
I think I failed the exam
Student Support / by SpringSunshine
Last post
 October 22nd, 2022
...See more It's been 9 hrs since I took an exam on one of our major subjects. I would say it was quite difficult, but I managed to answer all of the items except for the solving part. I struggled to answer all of them. I am afraid I might fail the exam. Our professor will release the score next week and waiting for it prolongs my agony. I blame myself for not devoting my full attention and effort to reviewing all of the coverage in the days leading up to the examination. I don't want to fail this semester. Please enlighten me. :((
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