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SoulofFate
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Worried that my passion for art is going to cost me a lot
Depression Support / by SoulofFate
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 4 hours ago
...See more I feel like by being an artist I'm going to prevent myself from ever entering a romantic relationship. Let's face it, artists have never been respected in society even going as far back as the Renaissance period when it was seen as a low-paying, low-status profession. Most artists have died sad, single and lonely even if their craft has been personally fulfilling to some degree (there are exceptions of course but those artists likely had other things going for them). Art doesn't showcase physical strength, status and money if anything it is associated with emotions and sensitivity which are not masculine traits. In all honesty I wouldn't care about all this nearly as much but it's tough choosing something that gets in the way of experiencing love from a woman.
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It feels like I'd have to change myself or end up alone if I don't
Depression Support / by SoulofFate
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 Sunday
...See more I feel like I'm turning into someone I don't want to be, I've been wrestling with these thoughts for a while now, it all started because I've never been in a relationship and always rejected whenever I asked someone out on a date. It started a rabbit-hole of crippling low self-esteem, constantly looking for what it is that makes me unattractive to women and finding ways of to improve myself, but the more I do the worse I feel and it gets to the point where I'm becoming somebody else to attract women. I've always been self-conscious about losing my hair early and being extremely short (5'7) and I'm not attractive in personality and behaviour either, I'm introverted, shy and overly emotional/sensitive, I'm a graphic artist who also plays guitar from time to time and makes sci-fi comics, I don't play sports or make a lot of money like other guys women seem to like, I'm not assertive or dominant, etc. I thought that my talents and personality maybe could be attractive to someone, but I've never met a woman who likes me for who I am, so that just leads me to be insecure and want to change myself to earn love and approval.
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