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ShyFish16
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PathStep 9 Compassion hearts13 Forum posts21 Forum upvotes22 Current upvotes22 Age GroupAdult Last activeMarch, 2020 Member sinceJune 14, 2015
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Struggling with friends, roommate, boyfriend
Relationship Stress / by ShyFish16
Last post
 February 27th, 2020
...See more Hello, I am in my second year of college. For a little background I have two friends I met my first year, C who is male and K who is female. I definitely befriended them and brought them out of their shells. We had a close friendship but spent a lot of our time together, hours upon hours every day. I started dating someone who introduced us into his friend group but he ended up being too controlling and took up most of my days. If he wasn't wanted or invited he would simply push his way in. Over this past summer I finally saw the behavior for what it was and broke it off. I came back to school this year, K and I are roommates now and C lives above us. I met a guy I fell head over heels in love with and I'm with him all the time. I set aside time to have dinner every weekday night with either C or K depending on their availability. I also try to be back to the dorm by like 10-10:30 on week nights so my roommate isn't lonely. Sometimes I'm late but I try to stick to it. I don't want to be that girl that forgets about her friends just because she's dating someone, and I'm always conscious of that fact, but they constantly make me feel guilty about how much time I spend with my boyfriend. I love him and I just want to be around him. I know if he gets upset he'll just tell me and we work it out, but I feel like K and C are always mad. And I feel crazy because when I mention things they say they aren't mad, so I assume I'm just overthinking things and making the situation worse. Any outside opinions would help, thanks!
My dad is a monster
Trauma Support / by ShyFish16
Last post
 June 15th, 2015
...See more My dad tried to choke my brother until he passed out. I'm still mad about it to this day. 
Shy-ness to the Extreme
Anxiety Support / by ShyFish16
Last post
 June 15th, 2015
...See more I am the shyest person you will ever meet. And I'm not entirely sure why. A lot of people think I do it on purpose, to get attention. Yeah,.... I'm trying to do the opposite. :) I'm a waitress, and have no problem at all talking to complete strangers, which is weird. I have a few friends and can usually talk to them pretty well if we are alone. But if we are in or near a large crowd of people , I just freeze up. I can't say a word and I feel like all eyes are on me. It's almost like stage fright,except it's all the time. If I absolutely HAVE to say something to someone in a crowd or with a group of people, I purposely don't make eye-contact. Because if I do, I just lose my nerve and say nothing. This is mainly because when I talk to a group of people, I don't know who to look at. Do you look at everyone as you talk, or just one person? This always makes me even more nervous to think about while I'm also trying to sort of ,almost, have a conversation, and then I just space out while I'm thinking about how this should all be done. And then it's over, and I have no clue what we even talked about. I know I probably sound like I'm coming from planet Mars, trying to learn "human ways of social interaction" but I'm just a normal Earthling like the rest of you. Any advice is much appreciated, thank you.
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