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STheBlue
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No respect, no decency, no inhibitions, no intimacy, no communication, no care, no sex...
Relationship Stress / by STheBlue
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...See more In my 30s here... Been having grave issues with my wife for the past two years. Partly to blame the relationship between my parents and her, with me ending up refereeing their viewpoints of each other. We both went through a mutual loss of a close relative of hers after which her mental and general downfall stepped in and took over... She doesn't respect me, doesn't listen, doesn't value, doesn't care, doesn't get intimate except on veeeeeery rare occasions and mostly to be over with it. She curses me quite often, my parents too quite often, she's not ever to be blamed for something and wishes that I get run over in the road for her to be relieved from me. She's currently working only 1 day per week - her choice - at a local bar, through which she's gotten close to people I don't know and people potentially dangerous for her and our family (and kids) in general (me and her mother are sending her career openings quite often but she is extremely selective and unwilling to put back into the oar even though I am very open in helping her out any way I can). She exchanged very intimate messages with some of her alleged friends (be that *** or *** or clients from the bar in the recent past, always deletes her messages very often and denies my access to them whereas when I hand her my phone over for eg ordering food delivery or looking something up (settings eg) she goes through my messages in every single platform while at it without asking first and blaming me for her "findings" no questions asked. I have financial difficulties even though I am currently working for 4th year straight in a previously steady job and then there is our kids caught in the middle of all this with me literally striving for providing them the best of everything possible and her showing only part time available to them... Sex life? Well that was a thing before marriage, mostly early in our relationship before relationship clouds gathered above us... I can go on almost indefinitely but it's probably better not to... I have been thinking about divorcing but I want to barricade my psychology first before going any further with life changing choices... Ideas? Advice? Anything else on faulty perspective?
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