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RyBoisse40
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Looking for ways to better my life.

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Porn Detox
Addiction Support / by RyBoisse40
Last post
 November 16th, 2023
...See more This is just an open diary to myself to get some feelings and thoughts out. So I'm about to go on a porn detox due to some ED issues that have been popping up.  I think the thought scares me because porn has always been my safe place.  It's always been there when times are tough since I was young. I don't see myself quitting 100%, and I've definitely been on stints where I've gone a few days without looking at it without thinking about it, but now just ACTIVELY thinking about not watching porn feels physically stressful.   However my wife and I are trying to have a kid, and I'm having trouble performing.  So I have to do what is best for me and my wife and my future family.   I've cut an alcohol addiction in the past, so I'm no stranger to quitting addictions.  Just gotta get through the first couple of days.  
Therapy vs. just dealing with my problems?
35 & Over Community / by RyBoisse40
Last post
 July 19th, 2023
...See more Hi all. Lots of appreciation if you chose to read this. I started searching for a therapist for some problems I’m dealing with, however I wonder if I even need a therapist? Should I just tough it out, or search for alternative methods? the reason I ask is because the online intake form I started to fill out included a lot of info about severe depression, medications, etc. maybe I just need to be tougher? Here’s a small list as to some problems I’m facing: -no social circle whatsoever -no contact with immediate family (other than wife) -current issues with wife (communication issues) -generally very cynical when not in public (can put on “the face” at work. -want to learn why I can’t make friends -I watch a LOT of porn to self-medicate I recently had to stop myself from starting to watch cam models. I figured I would take that money instead and put it into some sort of therapy. I don’t necessarily feel depressed, however I do have a “meh, life sucks, so if sh*t happens today, whatever. Just grind away” attitude that might not be healthy. any advice?
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