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RandomHuman001
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General Support / by RandomHuman001
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 December 8th, 2024
...See more Hello everyone! I feel the need to talk to someone, but I hesitate to send out a general request because I usually don’t connect well with those who respond.  What I don’t like about some listeners is the excessive rationalization of things and their practical approach to problems. It truly frustrates me when I open up my heart, and the conversation always ends up revolving around practical matters like studies, work, etc., which aren’t even the core of my issues (and I don’t need to discuss them extensively). Ideally, I’d like to talk to someone close to my age (in their 20s) who shares this unbearable disappointment and aversion toward the world and thinks more abstractly and emotionally rather than logically. Also, I kindly ask anyone who reaches out not to repeat clichés like "everything will be fine" or "I’m praying for you." I don’t want to receive positive energy from anyone because I have no use for it. I just want someone to deeply understand me. Sorry if I sound rude, but I just wanted to be straightforward about what I want. Thank you all in advance!
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I don't feel understood
Newbie Hub / by RandomHuman001
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 December 9th, 2024
...See more I am not a new member, but this is my first time posting publicly. In the two years I've been here, I've spoken with many listeners, and I can say that very few seem to truly understand what I’m saying. This isn’t necessarily their fault, as my depression is quite severe, and my way of thinking tends to be extreme (black-and-white) I just feel huge disappointment because even those who initially seem to understand, eventually start talking to me about hope and saying things like "everything will be fine," without basing it on anything concrete. I understand that many people need to hear exactly that, and it’s said with 100% good intentions, but to me it feels like toxic positivity and it’s triggering. If there were signs that there is hope for my situation to improve, I would have hope. And if there was an obvious solution to my problems, I would have already tried it (as I have). I’m not asking anyone to understand me under pressure, as that’s impossible. Only someone with similar experiences or a mindset like mine could do so. But I keep searching and can’t find anyone... I apologize if I sound critical.  Thank you for reading.
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