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PianoMan
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L Intermediate
5 star rating
Rating
Number of ratings63 Number of reviews27 Listens toOver 18 LanguagesEnglish Listener sinceMay 6, 2014 Last activeover 6 months ago GenderMale PathStep 251 People helped126 Chats319 Forum posts6 Forum upvotes17
Bio
Hi there, I'm here to listen to any and all problems you may be experiencing, I will try my very hardest to help out, whether you are perhaps looking a friendly chat to take your mind off of things or someone to just be here to listen. I have experienced my fair share of hardships, and overcoming each one has given me great insight into how to help in the best way possible. Music is my life, I am an aspiring musician who plays the piano (if the username didn't give it away).
Recent forum posts
An Apology To The Community
7 Cups Academy / by PianoMan
Last post
August 27th, 2023
...See more This is a strange one, but it’s a guilt I want to alleviate from my heart. When I first started volunteering here,I completely ignored the “do not give advice rule”. I was full of hubris, that I knew best and in reflection, what I was doing was reckless and dangerous. I could have and potentially may have caused great harm in my actions. It is no longer something I do and haven’t done for a while. I fully understand why we use reflective listening, and can see just how foolish I was. I can only pray that I haven’t hurt anyone as a result of this. im on a journey of self forgiveness, and for that I require holding myself accountable to my peers. I want to sincerely apologise for my actions, I have learnt from my mistakes and will not so it again. For anyone reading this who may be doing the same, I’ll explain what I came to learn. That to offer advice, is to take on the responsibility of the other persons actions. What works for me may not work for others, and it is reckless to presume otherwise. I recall suggesting someone make gentle confrontations with a potential narcissistic abuser. My god, how awful that was to suggest. That route was my route, and I presumed that it would be the universally applicable advice. I was so thankful to receive a message months later saying that things did work out, but that advice could have gotten them seriously injured, emotionally or physically. reflective listening allows the person the space to grow and learn, to start recognising patterns in there selves and routes of self enquiry and growth. We act as a mirror, remove ourselves and our personal biases and just allow space for the other person to be seen and heard. That is the far more valuable route of growth and healing than directing. once more, I sincerely apologise and have learnt and grown from my mistake. And I hope if anything it can be a learning experience for others. Thank you for reading
What if someone reports a crime?
Safety & Knowledge at 7 Cups / by PianoMan
Last post
August 11th, 2023
...See more If someone were to confess a crime or an intention to commit a serious offence, how best are we able to respond to it? im in the Uk and there was a famous case where a service similar to this called Samaritans, someone confessed a murder and the listener broke confidentiality and reported it. He lost his job and got into trouble. thanks in advance for this tricky subject!
Feedback & Reviews
Really thoughtful and understanding
very nice! provided me with a good talk
Very helpful listener. Is good at back and forth conversation.
amazing listener
it so good. glad to chat.
He’s a sweetheart ❤️
Awesome listener
Fun person to talk to
person helped me well and we have same views
Piano for president
amazing listener
PianoMan was a very good listener and helped me broaden my thinking about the issues I'm having and possibilities to consider.
A real listener and pretty much attentive to what you have to say.
Good listener extremely helpful
It feels like you're striking up a conversation with a friend. Listens and is personal,). I've only chatted with them for a little bit and I already feel a lot calmer than I did earlier.
Talks like a close friend, enjoyed talking :)
Great empathy skills, understands you and tries to sympathise and good listening skills
he's a good person
Great helper indeed
Very nice and empathetic.
I need extra stars to rate you and thank you enough. Really spontaneous and natural, which is the most important thing. Hope to talk again soon! :)
You're awesome!!!! THANKS!!! :D
lovely guy so helpful and understanding!
A great guy, really helps you out a lot.
very helpful
Thank you for your time.
Thank you :)
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